Toxic

Fatouma's picture

A bit of a rant mostly I had two previous post that would explain things alittle better

 

I'm so so soooo over it I've completely left the situation and for sake of my two kids was trying to hang on to a relationship that was so toxic, reached a point of no where in that home is my safe space. Being there literally gave me reactionary depression and panic attacks, he's still my husband says my step kids still ask for me and there siblings. And tbh it'll be a cold day in hell before I let them around my kids. I told my husband point blank period I will not allow my children to be name called and bullied by your ex thru step kids! When it came to me and she sent them to his house saying stuff about me I brushed it off but to my babies no I don't think so. And at first I went to him and expressed my concerns because I told him they aren't my bio kids my hurt is going to be stronger but since there all your bio kids you handle the situation. And he never did ever weekend they came back calling my son evil , crack head, disgusting whatever you can think of and his reason oh their mom is just bitter. Wtf kind of adult can say those things about babies! Since I've stayed strong in my decision of staying away he's agreed to really go to counseling this time, all the other times he agreed when I begged were lies. I'm sick of him chasing his first failed family, she can literally call him day or night oh what was that drink that I really loved and he's like on it I'll go get it for you wtf type of bull is that should have stayed single or remarried the chick in my opinion is what I told him, you want to act like your still married to her so leave me alone me and my kids will be just fine! Not the first case of divorce in history 

Winterglow's picture

I am impressed. I have just read over your previous posts and this is exactly what you needed to do. Keep up the good work! You are taking care of your children and your "husband" is still a dick. Some things never change. Why TF is he chatting with his ex and running after her every need? Like you said, he should have stayed married - idiot that he is.

In any case, congratulations on getting your life in order!

ndc's picture

I wouldn't even bother going to counseling with him.  He had his chance and you weren't important enough for him to actually do it. But if you do, keep him on a short leash and don't relax your boundaries for his failed family kids.  This isn't a situation worth remaining in,  IMO.

Harry's picture

Must stop the rug sweeping.  This is great for everyone except you and your kids vHe must stop this or your relationship will be coming to an end.  You can't live like this.  He must understand either he changes his kids [fat chance] or you are out