DH has not talked to SS18 the Golden child in almost 3 WEEKS. DH is livid because SS is talking about hating college, and we know it's 99% because of his Jr-in-HS gf back home. SS is across the country and has a ton of friends, is in a frat, and this college is amazing for his major. There are HUGE opportunities that he could never get anywhere else. But, a month before he left for college he decided to get super serious with his gf here. WHY. Prior to that they would go weeks without seeing each other.

A few weeks ago SS told DH he is coming home for Christmas for a month. He was just home for a week in Oct. DH had already talked to him about only coming for 2wks because 1. SS has a job there and is supposed to be working to pay off his car that he was supposed to pay off over summer but never did. 2. DH is scared that the more time SS spends with his gf, the more likely he is to leave that college and move back home where there is NO college for SS's major (there is 1 but SS didn't get in). 3. SS doesn't even have a vehicle here, everyone works or is in school for most of the time and he won't even have anything to do. SS doesn't care, he is coming home from Dec 10th-Jan 10th and that's that.

Anyway, DH is so upset about this gf situation that he can't see straight. He was yelling at SS via text, and SS started saying how he he's "lonely" and he's the "only kid from his class who went to college out of state". (As if that should be the bar.) He is at an international college where most kids are from out of state and COUNTRY, and I bet half the kids in his HS class WISHED they could go out of state. So now he's making excuses. He said he "misses seeing his parents everyday". HA! He was always in his room for 1, and second, you are 18 bro- those days are over. You aren't going to "see your parents everyday". Even when he came home last month he didn't do 1 single thing with Crazy or us. We saw him for 20 mins. I do understand it's hard and he's probably homesick, but he's also romanticizing it- he wouldn't see his friends here (he didn't hang out with them when he lived here!), and we know the biggest draw is his gf. SS went on and on about how every other kid is going home for Christmas for a month but he should be the only one that doesn't? Which isn't what DH was saying, but DH was sick of SS's pouty attitude So they haven't talked since. DH said that if SS drops out of college, (SS said he isn't), he can live with his mom. DH agrees that no matter what, SS isn't going to just live here. He is going to either go to another college, get a job and move out, or live with Crazy. 

This week, as Demon15 was yelling at DH, she mentioned she had seen the texts DH had sent to SS, and that DH "Cut SS off when he turned 18 and he doesn't even want SS home for Christmas and we cleared out SS's bedroom!!". I bit my lip soo hard. She had said some things to me that weren't amazing also, and she did apologize the The next day. I couldn't resist telling her how she doesn't have the whole story- DH just gave SS $1,700 the week prior for college because SS just had to upgrade his dorm and then owed $ and couldn't enroll in 2nd semester classes until he paid what he owed. And that DH also gave him a $520 loan overpayment check to put towards his car instead of paying it back to the school, which SS probably just spent on Xmas presents for his gf. But instead of showing any gratitude, SS had to send the texts to Crazy and make himself out to be a victim and DH as the bad guy. No mention of what DH has done for him. And that actually, LOTS of parents turn kids rooms into guest rooms or something else when they leave for college- it doesn't mean he's kicked out! He just has a Queen size bed to sleep in when he visits now. Demon changed her tune after hearing this, and told me how SS's gf already had a trip planned to see SS at college in March, and that he plans on moving back after this year. She also said she's "sick of people sleeping in her bed", so she's glad there will be somewhere else for them to sleep. At first I was confused- I thought she meant people were sleeping in her room at Crazy's. No- she meant at our house. The ONE F'ng time I had friends come on, which was almost 4yrs ago for DH and I's wedding reception, and they slept in Demon's room. ONCE. Now she is "sick" of it. Even DH said told her, NO ONE SLEEPS IN YOUR ROOM, it happened ONE TIME. These kids are such victims. They honestly think these are rough things, and things to complain about. Imagine, people sleeping in your room once! They weren't even here, they wouldn't have even known it happened except we told them. 

Anyway, It will be interesting to see how this plays out. I'm sure DH will talk to SS before Christmas. I'm curious if he will end up staying by us at all. But we were actually considering going to SS's college area for New Year's because I have a hookup to stay for free, and flights are cheap, plus DH and I both have off work. It's pretty irritating if we don't go because SS is here, and we just stay home doing nothing. DH said "maybe he will go back to college early if we are there". No DH. He won't. He wants to be here with his gf. And we wouldn't be spending every second there with him anyway. I'm not surprised that there is still drama with SS from thousands of miles away.