We have twin lives except my SD is 13 and this is the 4th year she has been living with us. Also DH vasectomy reversal did not work so no children of our own. I went through the blame and anger towards DH. I was grieving the child that we would never have. It is no different than the stages of grief for anything, let yourself grieve. I explained it to DH and he was understanding about what I needed to go through. This actually made us a bit stronger.

Alot of it is also the fact that she is a teenager and all those wonderful things that come with it. I now understand why mothers and daughters need to bond when they are a baby. Don't feel bad I am starting to realize that these feelings are okay, they are mine and it is how we act on them that is the determining factor. I hear some of my friends who are BM talk about how much they hate their own children as a teenager, hell there were times when my mom wanted me to move out of the house at 15. Therefore if it is okay for bios to have those feelings why not us.