Does anyone use common sense anymore? Does anyone think before they click the "accept" for people they stopped having contact with years ago? Does anyone ever wonder about the reason they have been selected to be a friend?

I have facebook. My only friends are some present family members. Even though I come from a family of 10 siblings, I only have 15 'friends."

I keep reminding myself that my 60 year old views are outdated. Yet it is mindboggling to me when I see the "accepted" friends on my DH's family side. Is it any wonder that many wives feel there is no room for them in the family since wife #1 never moves out of the family?

In the old days, a past wife, girlfriend or casual acquaintance had to put some effort and thought into how she was going to remain "in your face." Examples---Dh ended a 2 year relationship when he met me. She was a woman who lived at her own place," played wife" when she came over 2x week. This woman put effort into keeping tabs on DH's life. I knew every year on his birthday she sent a birthday card to him complete with her cell phone # and a boo hoo letter of her undying love. [went right in the garbage]

What I did not know at the time was that this person began writing and phone calls to DH's family. They lived 2 thousand miles away. She met them once. She started the contact with DH's 80 yr old mom. She knew to zoom in on a lonely old lady when everyone else avoided her. That took effort.

Now days there is little effort needed. As I said---boggles my mind.
If an ex family member or friend that you ceased to have contact with years ago sends a friend request, there is a motive.

If adult sc is suggesting their parent as a friend to the people who are now your inlaws, there is a motive.

If the woman that was having an affair with your son, and almost caused a divorce, sends you a friend request---there is a motive. [In this particular case , it is an on going competition to comment on every new entry or picture---marking territory???]