So last night I get a doozy of a bomb dropped on me. The phone rang at dinnertime and we didn't recognize the number so the machine picked it up. It was some family counselor who was calling to confirm an appointment time for ss an dh and I! :jawdrop: So I tell dh to stop what he's doing and call this woman back asap. Apparently bm set up the appointment because ss has been having "anxiety" issues (acting clingy, hiding, sulking) Theses are all things I have been discussing with dh for the last 9 months to which he turns a blind eye and acts like nothing is wrong. So dh tells me he knew nothing about this. Calls the counselor and speaks with her and tells her we will have to check our schedules as our vacation is this week (I find the timing on this highly suspect as well).

I then tell dh to call horseface bitch devil cunt and find out what she is playing at? Now keep in mind dh and bm work together, they interface daily on some level. Dh's attorney has advised him as have I, repeatedly, to make NO arrangements with her unless they are documented on email. So I thought the man had figured it out. Oh, no. That would be expecting too much. He hangs up with her and tells me it's an appointment she said she was making in passing last week at the office. Now quick background, dh's phone has an app that records all incoming and outgoing phone calls for up to two weeks. Something seems fishy. So I ask if I can listen to the phone call they just had. He hesitates but then says yes. I proceeded to listen and what I hear can only be described as heartbreaking shock and awe. Horseface states that, "Don't you remember WE talked about this the other day in OUR little meeting? You were sitting right there? I emailed you the link to the doctor's office. You said it was ok."

So let me just say what the f*cking f*ck?!!!!

Dh has a history of lying. He lied about an ex-girlfriend that lived with him. He lied about bm and that fact that they reconciled for a year after they divorced and lived together again. He seems incapable of telling the truth. So when I called bullshit on this he lost his marbles. He tried to deflect the blame. First off he says, "I'm not lying. I'm telling you know." Uh, no motherf*cker you are only telling me because I overheard and now your caught. And then he busted out the old, "You get mad if I talk to her and mad if I don't." I wanted to throw up but instead I threw him out. Not sure what time he came home. But my best friend (who is a sm) is beside herself with me. It really looks like the end.

I feel he clearly is still tied, in love, has feelings for his ex. He continues to hide things that are important and that I should be made aware of. And why? Who is he protecting? Her obviously. And all this time I'm pissing my money away on an attorney whose advice he isn't going to take in order to keep 50/50 custody of his son. FML.

It's a strange irony that 14 years ago today I was married to my first husband. So it's fitting that on the day my first marriage started, my second one is ending....