my house isn't a shelter for homeless animals
Ok I wasn't going to write about this but it's annoying me. A few days ago, after our big fight about the second cell phone and all that crap, DH brings home a bull mastif dog. All of you know how much I dislike dogs and love cats. I am a cat person plain and simple, not really a dog person though my brothers always had dogs but my mom always said no dogs in the house and she stuck to her guns (how my mom was so strong and set good boundaries is till a mystery to me and I wish I was more like her!). Anyways so DH calls me at work last Monday and says he finally got this dog, we'd been discussing adopting him b/c his owner is a friend of DH's son and is going to college in CA and needed a home for this dog. Dh had been discussing it I should point out and I was flat out noooooo.
When I got home DH was explaining to me that this kid's house sunk half way into a sink hole and he needed to go to a hotel and they did not take pets so we had to take the dog early. We weren't supposed to get him til late August if we got him at all. At one point I had told DH that the owner needed to have him fixed at the very least and retrain him b/c he does pee inside once in awhile, (3 yr old) and not before I was certain this dog was fixed would I reconsider the option of maybe having him only while this kid is away at school.
So DH told me this story about the house sinking and the plight of this young man and I gave in. Well it turns out that there was no sink hole (I went and looked at the house) and not only that but the guy is still living in his house? At least his car was parked there when I did the drive by. I didn't say anything and later that day I snuck DH's phone and read the texts to and from this guy and it was something like the guy saying ok you ready to pick up the dog now, I can't afford to get him fixed for you but you want a litter anyhow from him so maybe later. DH wrote back ok I'll be there tomorrow when sterling is at work.
I confronted DH about this whole thing and he just kisses me and says he bought the dog for protection for me and he hasn't the heart to take him away from ss16 now.
SO HE GOT THE DOG FOR FSS16 and tried to pass it off as not only a rescue but a dog to protect me. I have never needed a dog to protect me ever, I have no enemies, and ss16 now has a mammoth dog in MY HOUSE. So I tell him ss16 can get a dog when he moves out. DH says he'll take the mammoth with him, he's a good dog and we can't turn him away now and ss16 will never forgive you, bla bla bla.
Ok so here's what really bothers me about this dog, he hates cats. I have a cat and she is a beautiful cat who loves people and actually loves our shi tzu dog and they make a cute odd couple. Now my cat is going in and out of my boys' bedroom window and her food is in there. She is frightened to death of this HUGE MAMMOTH bull mastif. He chased her once with his teeth bared. She jumped onto the shed roof and didn't come down for two days. DH says they'll get to know eachother and eventually play together. Ya right.
What bothers me even more is that I am now paying for two dogs I don't want, their food, vet, shi tzu's hair cuts, and my cat is suffering. Well I am suffering b/c here I sit in the livingroom with two dogs at my feet and no cat on my lap.
I am so sick and tired of DH making me look like the bad guy by taking in animals/kids and me saying NOOOO. Ss16 hates me enuf already if I make DH get rid of this mastif he might just leave. Oh wait, that actually sounds good!
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Start looking for rescue
Start looking for rescue groups. He's young and I know there are rescue groups for this breed.
I'm a dog lover, we now have three, but I've been the bad guy before when I wouldn't let my roommate get a dog. We lived in a townhouse with no fenced yard. I was home more than she was and I knew that I would be the one taking care of it. My roommate was never home! I asked her how she expected to deal with the dog while we were gone, she wanted to tie it up outside. First I am personally against tying up any dog and leave the unattended, I know some people do that, I just don't like it for me. And second, did she even consider that the apartment complex won't allow a dog to be tied up in the common areas?! Some people just don't think things through. But I stuck to my guns because I knew that she would tire of this dog and it would probably end up at the pound, which I didn't want.
Your DH is like a kid who likes the idea of having a dog, but doesn't care about the expense and effort it takes to take care of one. I love my dogs but they are a lot of work and money. And they are a pain sometimes.
You don't have a DH and an SS, you have two children in your house now. Go ahead and be the bad guy, and give this dog a better home. It obviously doesn't get along with cats, so it needs a catless home.
I wouldn't count on your DH leaving if you get rid of the dog, either. He'll stay there and make you feel guilty. Be strong.
Oh, and maybe find a rescue
Oh, and maybe find a rescue group for your DH that might take him too. He's getting way out of control.
Your husband may have cancer
Your husband may have cancer but that is no excuse for his being the biggest asshole on earth.
HE FLAT OUT LIED TO YOU!!!!
HE FLAT OUT LIED TO YOU!!!! AGAIN!!!! Send this man, his spawn, and his dog packing before he gives you an std and the dog eats your cat because I guarantee that dog will not get used to your cat. Your cat will be killed!
As a bleeding heart animal
As a bleeding heart animal lover I hate this but this is a far more humane way to go than how your cat and possibly your shitzu will die when this dog gets hold of them.
What SHOULD be bothering u is
What SHOULD be bothering u is that your husband is a f*kking LIAR!!!!!!!!
...and because of the
...and because of the internet, we now know that we must bury the dog four feet above the man (who is buried vertically) so that the cadaver dogs find the dead dog and the police won't think to dig anymore.
And the man vertically because google earth looks for suspicious spaces approximately 6 feet across.
Disclaimer: please don't shoot anything or anyone--I just thought it fit this scenario perfectly.
WOW! You're my hero!
WOW! You're my hero! }:)
Thinking about getting a near
Thinking about getting a near dead dog now just to bury it over the RiceSlingers vertical body....
I just read this on a website
I just read this on a website and this is what this dog does:
"Some Bullmastiffs have strong instincts to chase and seize cats and other fleeing creatures."
I am so freakin worried now
I am a vet tech, I have
I am a vet tech, I have trained dogs in the past for show and obedience. This dog will catch your cat and he will savage it. Either get the dog out now or save the cat's life and give it to someone that will love it and not let a dog savagely rip it to pieces.
How can you keep living with
How can you keep living with this guy?!?
You've convinced yourself you overreacted about him having a secret phone and texting the exgf all of which he flat out lied to you about. Now he's lieing to you about why he just Has to take this dog. Then about who he got the dog for. And he's apparently planning on breeding the dog even though he doesn't clean up after the dog as it is?
I know he has cancer, but why is that an excuse for him to treat you like you don't matter at all? You are supporting his dumb butt, and he pulls this nonsense? Why are you willing to set your own value so low that you will excuse all this?? Your H is using you and treating you like crap and your trying to convince yourself of why you should put up with it. You shouldn't. Get rid of the damn dog.
Foxie, you're on a roll
Foxie, you're on a roll today. But thanks for your openness.
I just pulled a bad one - I
I just pulled a bad one - I am fighting fire (lie) with fire (lie). I called DH and told him the mastiff ran my cat down the yard and caught it by the fence and I ran after it screaming and the cat got away barely with it's life finally and climbed a tree. This is partly true b/c the dog did chase the cat and it ran up a tree. The cat got caught in a crook in the tree just out of my reach so I called my bs17 and he came outside and was able to rescue the cat AFTER I'd put the damn dog into ss16's room and locked the door and window. The cat scratched bs17 while getting it down and he looked at me while holding the cat and asked me what I'm going to do? I told him I'd call DH and Mastiff goes tomorrow. So bs17 was there and though the dog didn't catch the cat (that was the part that was the lie but only to add emphasis) it was enough for me to finally KNOW this dog is one of those that will chase and hunt down cats. On the phone DH promised the dog goes, in front of ss16. I'm sure there'll be attitude when they get home and ss16 will take the dog for a walk and then keep him in his room and throw me side glances like how could you? Since the pound doesn't open til Tues morning I'm sure DH is going to try hard to talk me out of this and assure me how the dog and cat will grow on each other bla bla, but I have made up my mind.
One good thing out of all this, the Shihtzu is looking mighty fine right about now. lol Reminds me of the story of the widow and judge, how the widow goes to the judge and says my house is too small what should I do? He tells her to go home and bring the dogs into the house. The next week she's still complaining to him her house is too small and he tells her to bring the horse into the house. and on and on until she had all her farm animals in her house. She finally is so exasperated and yells at the judge what are you thinking that this will make my house bigger? He says go home and let out all the animals back into the yard and then clean your house and come back tomorrow. She does all that and goes back the next day and in amazement tells the judge her house seems so big how could she have thought it was small.
Call animal control and say
Call animal control and say it was running on your property
My DH got a puppy against my
My DH got a puppy against my wishes shortly after Christmas knowing I was totally against it. He didn't have time to train or even spend with the puppy who grew into a large dog that would pee and poo in my house. My DH finally capitulated to getting rid of the dog - provided I get rid of one of my cats. I had 3 and had them *all* going into the marriage. All 3 of them were rescue, and only one of them was adoptable - my Savanna cat. I had to re-home my savannah in order to get my husband to get rid of the dog, and to be honest, I still hold a good bit of resentment toward him for it. And how quickly DH forgets; there is already talk (from him only, of course) of a new dog. I made it perfectly clear that this time the answer is NO! Any dog brought in my home will be immediately taken to a shelter. No, no, and no.
I feel for you, honey. Honestly and truly, I do. And I have to agree with everyone who's already said to get rid of the dog. If you're already having trouble with it, it will only get worse for you and the pets you already own as the much larger dog will take over and claim the house as his territory.