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lilhousemaid89's picture

SO i was straitening the bed room my SD8 and DD4 share and found homework that my straight A SD got an F on in her trash can... So naturally i show my DH and I get bitched at for it. " You never say anything nice about MY kid "....

SM means all the work none of the credit. i guess i am supposed to get her up do her hair for school, make sure she looks cute, tell her to bathe, basicly everything but wipe her ass ( which she dont do at 8yrs.) and get bitched at for the whole 9 yards..... F this shit i am sooooo almost done....

Wine Fairy PLEASE come visit me like... NOW!!!!!!!!!

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lilhousemaid89's picture

We have two DD together 4yr old and a 3 month old and he never acts like that towards me with them. our DD4 is getting tested for adhd and other stuff like it but she acts out alot and we do spank our kids for that.... EXCEPT THE SD! she can get away with murder in his eyes and it be ok but god forbid that DD$ acts up.

lilhousemaid89's picture

You mean continue to. She just got home and already i have been yelled at twice because i said something wrong.... so all night i have decided if you live here and are not my DD you can f off. my kids need my attention more than his ungrateful little brat child. I can see that DH and BM splitting up may be a stress-er for her but at the same time i have been here for 6 yrs. she was 2 i doubt she even remembers much of the relationship. I have told her that i am not going anywhere so she needs to stop pushing... her response... "too bad" an 8yr old knows the diff between right and wrong and how to treat ppl.

lilhousemaid89's picture

In some cases i have heard about the Skid loves SM more than BM but in my case BM tells SD all the time she hates me and not to listen and this and that. so if your Skids BM isnt like mine then i hoe when they ate my SD age they will be normal kids not... well ya know lol. and yes he treats her like a guest. drives me crazy!!!

loveandfitness's picture

BB tells my SS8 the same type of stuff! Seriously, you can hear the wind rattling through these womens heads. your SD sounds ALOT like my SS. BM too!

Shaman29's picture

Continue to hold your own bios accountable and let him raise the SD as he sees fit.

When your bios question it later on, simply tell them some things in life aren't fair and that just how it is.

I'm seeing this a lot lately on here. Maybe it's the newer members, maybe it's the full moon or school starting. But a lot of the members are getting the "You hate my kids" crap again.

I? Would stop doing the extras for my SD and point her in daddy-dearest's direction. Let HIM deal with his kid and then he'll see how much you've been doing for her.

LuckyGirl's picture

Your husband is doing so much damage to his daughter by not being a parent to her. I wonder, when she's a teenager and completely unmanageable, will he be scratching his head going "I don't know what happened" (cue gormless look)... Very little does as much damage to a kid's life as cr*p parents.

newtothis03's picture

Completely agree, he is doing more harm than anything else. it's healthy for children of all ages to have boundaries. i do commend you for being concerned about your SD's grades, you only wanted what was best for her (regardless of what your DH thinks) Your DH's behavior will be mimicked by your SD, she sees him treating like the enemy and she will do the same. i, personally, would address this. If he wants full responsibility, give it to him. Let him know him taking over his child will give you more time for your own. For him to get the point you will have to stick to this. Often times, us women say one thing but then want to pick up the slack (you probably care for this child) and you will have to refrain from it for him to actually understand how much you actually do for HIS child