So, I'm not quite sure, but I think SS14 might be trying to get into my good graces somehow or for some reason....? He's pretty much never been there before, so it would be a first, it's not clear to me what exactly he's up to, if anything. Some background: Both skids are pretty much the bane of my existence. I tried to be the SM who participates in their stuff, tried to get out and do fun things, even tried get them to be part of MY family, etc., for about the first 4 years or so I was with DH. Even now, my parents will do stuff with them, take them to lunch for their birthdays, etc. Stuff I gave up on a long time ago because I'm so worn-down from dealing with their bullshit and constant disrespect towards every adult they know (except for my parents and siblings...weird), I pretty much just stopped caring.

Over time, the skids just continued to get worse, until DH's 40th birthday, when we all went out to dinner and they got so obnoxious that, after the meal and when we were in the truck, we had finally had it. He pretty much told them they had ruined his birthday dinner, that they couldn't even keep it together long enough to have a pleasant meal, etc. I pretty much stayed out of it, like I always do, until SS14 told DH to shut up, and then I snapped just a little bit. I told him he'd better NEVER tell an adult to shut up, especially his father, ever again, and that's when he called me a bitch, then ran out of the vehicle because I was about to black out and wake up in jail, and he pretty much knew it. The whole rest of the night was a total shambles, culminating with SS14 telling DH he would never apologize to either of us for his behavior, and that actually, WE owed HIM an apology for getting mad at him about it. That's when I made the choice to basically have nothing more to do with him because it was just too much.

In the last two months or so, I don't know what's happening, but he's, like, trying to act less awful around me (not that successfully since every time SS12 enters the room, he goes into dick-mode), and trying to, like, actively participate in conversations between me and DH in a pseudo-intelligent way (which I don't like), and when he's in the same room as me, and SS12 and DH aren't around, he'll sort of hover, and I kind of think he wants me to talk to him, or wants to talk to me, but I'm not having it, so then he'll leave the room... It's very awkward. My feeling is that he knew he took it WAY too far when he called me a bitch, so now he's trying to engage me again...? I seriously don't know if I'm even right, but what I do know is this: until I get an actual, unsolicited apology from him, I will remain disengaged to the fullest extent because I'm not the one.