So far...UGH.
Well, we're back from NJ as of last night. The ride back sucked. It was SD crying about missing having an intact family and FDH going "there, there, it does suck, I'm so sorry, SD" and romanticizing the fact that she and he used to spend all their time together - without so much as one word from him about how it wasn't fair of him to put her in such a role, rather it became how it was unfair of him to just suddenly rip that away from her. And that's not to mention the fact that it was completely AWKWARD to be in the car while they were having this convo.
Naturally, SD got attitude with me in the car, and firmly planted herself up FDH's backside at every chance she got so, it made the last five hours of our car ride ridiculous.
Then, as soon as we got home, FDH and SD start walking around the house and making decisions for themselves about the place - like, when SD is going to go to bed, what they're going to do with the litter box in SD's room. Uhm, helloooooooo, mini-wife rising.
Luckily, I have counseling tonight so I can bitch it out and then bitch FDH out.
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I feel for you. If I remember
I feel for you. If I remember correctly, she is a teen. However, my skids were 21 to 32 when I married. SD, at 28, was the worst. Exttended family sucks period. MIL is the true mini-wife with DH. I have disengaged lately. You need to think about a will too. DH and I still have no will. With no will, I would be forced to give them 25% of assets. I love to have a new home. We still have not sold DH house which we hope to see for no less that 40K. At least my home was paid for before we married and SK can not kick me out...should DH die before me.
Yep, she's a teen, which
Yep, she's a teen, which makes everything all the more obnoxious as far as her attitude goes. But, FDH excluding me last night is squarely on him. He's the other adult in this house, he shouldn't have been trying to make household changing decisions without me, even if it's something as miniscule as where to keep the third litter box; mainly because we both decided a long time ago that we're not rearranging our lives when SD visits, and, him taking me out of the decision making process in our house and substituting SD is definitely rearranging our lives.
Oh, as soon as FDH and I are married wills will be made - can't for the life of me figure out why FDH doesn't already have one, everyone else I know who has children got one put together as soon as their kids were born.
Some people never get their
Some people never get their shit together. So many times, I wanted to tell my DH...Did your not learn from you dad not having a will. When MIL went into the nursing home, she never got their car transferred into her name. I had to handle all the SHIT on selling the car. Getting DH and his brother together to sign was a nightmare. His brothers were ok on signing but it would been so simple if MIL would of took care of her shit after her husband died. And if her husband would have left the car to her in the will...she would not even had to go there.