lol earth shattering roar. why don't you get him an alarm clock?

It is very hard to deal with the same frustrating situation again and again and again and i know the aggravation only too well. Good for you that you don't have to deal with it, but your poor wife gets the brunt of it. Here is how i see it:

certain people are wired to be able to transition from activity to activity easily, in a manner of seconds or minutes. The alarm clock rings and they are out of bed, ready to go. Or done with TV, moving onto homework. My older son is like that. Other people - at times ones with ADHD and possibly other conditions that i know less well - have a VERY hard time with transitions, esp. from preferred activities to non-preferred ones. This difficulty with transitions is also heavily present in autism, but we will leave that out for now.

So when i was a teenager, my mother hated our morning routine, and so did I. It was similar to yours. I just could not for the life of me jump out of bed. She would turn the radio on in the kitchen, knowing i hated that, so i would get up, turn it off, and fall back in bed. My brain needed more time to process being awake. My younger son inherited that same quality. It is NOT because he is a lazy kid, but he cannot shift gears as swiftly. Yelling is not the answer, it just makes all of us cranky. Giving him more time is my answer, setting the alarm clock earlier, setting several alarm clocks helps, moving the hands on the clock in his room forward has also been known to work.

It will likely get better as he gets older... i have been getting up before 6 am for the last 25 years and i am fine, something i would not have believed when i was in high school, or even college. It helps to know that ADHD is delayed maturation, your brain matures on its own schedule, and some of us need help while that maturity lags behind. I am convinced that i had an undiagnosed, mild form of ADHD, and my son got it in a more pronounced form. It explains a lot of things about him. He needs to be taught strategies to manage it - in school and more importantly in life.

She needs to hit him where it hurts - stuff he likes. For example, every day that results in yelling and screaming is a day without TV or x-box. Or extra chores (and make sure it is something gross that he hates). Does he have an alarm clock? And for good measure, can you get your hands on a bull horn with a siren sound? Yes, it would startle the crap out of him but boy will it get his attention.

Well, I agree with DW. Ss deserves a head up conversation for any big changes to how things are going to work. If he's accustomed to multiple warnings on the time and having DW manage him getting out the door on time its not fair to just expect him to realize the norm has changed. Setting a kid up to fail is piss poor parenting.

DW needs to sit ss down tonight and calmly explain the new "normal" and lay out what she will and won't do from now on. He needs to understand his new responsibilities before he's let to face the consequences of not fulfilling them.

this reminds me of my grandfather.

my dad had a hard time getting up in highschool. g-dad got fed up with it. so he gave him a warning starting on a Monday, "you will get up the first time you are told. this will begin starting next Monday." (now mind you, g-dad is old school and unyieldingly stands by his word)

every day that week he was reminded of what was going to be expected.

the following Monday he was told it was time to get up. he did not.
grampy entered the room, jerked the covers back, and switched him up one side and down the other.

never had to do it again

It's called a bottle with a sprayer on it filled with water. the same one you shoot at the cat. Works like a charm, my friend.. like a charm!!

I have that EVERY Morning with my DD who is 5...I am sometimes late because of it(but ultimately my fault)...she refuses to wear certain clothes ie, if its not pink, purple, sparkly or a dress or a skirt...forget about her WEARING Anything. And I yell, the morning time is the most stressful time for me, plus she gets distracted and needs hair clips etc...So I can totally relate to your wife. Even though there is a MAJOR difference in ages...I too am tired of the pickiness.
Really hope this isnt a precursor for what she'll be like in the future, ie teenager.
Your wife will eventually get fed up with his morning behaviour, but I think her retracting "Im so done with the BS"--is more to do with guilt..If I dont wake him up and he's not successful at school-im a bad mother thinking pattern. She needs to be more disciplined with him and stop guilting herself into thinking that way..
True-if she isnt more disciplined he will mess up(however he is old enough to understand the importance of an education).Parents should be dictating the rules-not the other way around(i say this because my daughter dictates the rules sometimes too).