SS15’s daughter was born last night. For those that are new/ need a refresher: SS15 got his girlfriend pregnant, DH’s brother and his wife are adopting the little pink bundle of oh-my-god-she-is-adorable!!

She was born almost a month early (3 weeks give or take a day or two) and weighed in at 5 pounds 1 ounce. All test results show a perfectly healthy baby. Presumed reason for prematurity is teenage pregnancy.

Bio mom did great! Adoptive mom was her Lamaze partner. In the delivery room were bio mom, bio dad, adoptive mom and adoptive dad. The rest of us stayed out in the waiting room with the multiple grandfathers wearing ruts in the tiles (DH, DH’s dad, Bio mom’s dad and adoptive mom’s dad). No drugs, no epidural: Vaginal delivery after 12 hours of labor. Bio dad did puke once and nearly passed out.

Baby has SS’s hair (and was born with a full head of it!!) and her mom’s super pale (think Crayola crayon white) skin. Currently she has blue eyes; she may keep them as her bio mom has blue eyes. She is definitely a preemie as she has the white fuzz all over her body.

Adoptive mom went through the process to produce her own breast milk, so within an hour or two of being born the wee one was nursing and adoptive dad got the honor of changing the first dirty diaper.
Neither Bio parent is having second thoughts on allowing the baby to be adopted. They are both referring to the baby as either their cousin or “god daughter”.
The adoptive parents definitely are not having second thoughts!
All grandparents/parents of teenagers are just thankful that the baby will be brought up loved, in a stable household. And are happy the teenagers will have a chance to finish growing up themselves! Without the pressure of parenthood while still being ‘kids’.

Bio parents will be the baby’s god parents when she is baptized in a few weeks. The adoption is open. SS will obviously see the baby pretty often as it’s his uncle and aunt who are adopting her. Bio mom will also be able to see the baby; she will be “God Mother” which in this family means ‘aunt’.

Refresher:
When the pregnancy came to light, DH informed SS that he would get a job and EARN the amount of money the pregnancy and delivery would cost and hand it over to the adoptive parents to start the child’s college fund. (BIL’s insurance actually paid the amount once the adoption process was started).

Skid4 had a chat with me last night and I ended up floating the kid a loan. He has been working his tail off to earn the $10k the pregnancy and delivery would have cost. He was a little under $2500.00 short of his goal. He really wanted to give his uncle the check for the full amount to start the baby’s college fund. This kid has worked part time at McDonald’s while school is in session, full time during summer and school breaks. He has also mowed lawns, done odd jobs for neighbors and basically scrounged any job he could find to make this money. He did all of this, while making straight A's: because he knows if he makes straight A's he gets $100.00 for his report card.

So I floated the kid a loan for the amount left. He has a signed contract with me that he will sign his paychecks over to me until the loan is paid back. The pride on his face when he wrote a check to his uncle for $10k and said “This is to start her college fund” was awesome. The part that impressed me the most was him saying later that it felt good to give the money away. That he didn’t feel bad because he earned it and had to give it away that giving his uncle that check made him feel like a man.