I get a call last night just as I'm leaving work, my exh. He sounds off, I can hear him shivering he asks if I still have an old coat of his our son had been given and can I bring it down to the end of the street to him. I told him I was at work, just leaving and we still had it he could call our dd she was home , is everything okay but he'd already hung up.
I start out of work and my SO send me a pic with the message "*exh's name's house is on fire, you dd went down there with a coat for him"
I raced there I didn't know if everyone was okay, where his gf was and her kid, the pets, my kids pets is everyone okay. I took another old hoodie of my ex's (I used it for years it was warm), and another jacket in case exh's gf and kid needed them.
The place in front of my ex's is gone, a blast nearly caught exh as they raced out before a propane tank blew up. My dd's vehicle (she has a car as well since the one at her dads doesn't work) took the blast saved her dads house. The neighbors lost everything, another neighbor was the one alerted them to the fire saved 6 lives. The pets are okay too.
The pictures my dad got (he's a photographer) and the neighbor from behind my ex shows how lucky they are, everyone says if they had been warned 10 seconds later 4 people (upstairs neighbors and exh who ran back to grab his laptop with all his pictures) would of been in the middle of the blast.
I told him if they needed anything let me know. My dd helped get a few things when they were allowed to but they still can't stay in exh's house right yet, my own dad gave exh's gf a hug and gave her some info on renters insurance and how to get the smoke smell out (he's also a retired firefighter)None of them had renters insurance. DD's truck will be a total loss and not insured (that's on her dad)
So why am I crying? #1 That's my kids other family and they came to close to being hurt or worse. #2 I'd of gone down to help a stranger with a coat, a drink, a hug, and offer of help it's part of who I am, It's why I went into medicine, and disaster response. I'd of put a coat on BM if her house was burning even.
But when I got home SO was in bed, pissy. I asked if he was made I went down there and got SO: "Yeah I am you dd had it under control."
Me "I wanted to make sure they were all okay didn't need anything I'd of done it for strangers hell I'd of done it for BM."
SO "I'd of pointed and laughed at her."
Me: "They don't deserve to lose everything like that, or nearly get seriously hurt, well except one person but still, what if your kids lost their other home"
SO: "I'd of got my kids and laughed at BM"
Me: "This is what I do, this is who I am I would do it for strangers so I'd definitely do it for my kids other family."
SO "I know and it's annoying, I would of liked a little time with my gf before I had to go to bed!"
Me : "So what I want to do with my life is annoying and less important?"
I just got out of bed. That really hurt.
I don't know how my exh's house is still standing almost untouched, the curtains should of caught fire when the window blew out. There was a whole lotta luck and a hero neighbor who saved them all just in time. My dd is still shaken up she was going to stay at her dads, exh's gf lost every heirloom and all the little nic knacks and stuff from when her daughter was little it was all in the storage room which is destroyed, so she's been in tears, but mostly over how close they all were to being hurt or trapped. I feel really bad for them and the upstairs neighbor who lost everything they owned