...after SD7 left to go to her father's house at noon.

My DW does a lot of stuff for me, and she always goes overboard on Father's Day. I had breakfast in bed, so that started off a good day, but as soon as I was out of bed it was SD7 being an idiot until she left at noon. So the morning sucked, but the rest of the day was better.

In the morning every Sunday we have BS3's swim lessons, and we all go - even on weekends when we have SD7, she has to come along. She usually does not complain because DW lets her play games on her phone the whole time. Well, not today... it was constant whining and bitching about how she didn't want to go. I get it, though, it is boring for her. However, in addition to the whining, she was purposefully not listening to me or DW when we asked her to do things - put away her toys, get dressed, put on her shoes, brush her teeth, etc. We'd have to tell her 4-5 times and we just did not have time for that. As we're leaving she decides that she needs to clean up the legos she was playing with... but we're walking out the door. DW has to tell her at least 5 times to stop what she is doing and come on. SD7 keeps complaining about how its not fair, she just wants to clean up (literally the first time I've ever seen this child WANT to clean up)... really she is just doing it to be a PITA.

So then we go to the lessons and SD is getting an attitude in the car whenever DW or I try to talk to her, so we just tell her to sit there and be quiet. We get to the lessons and DW lets SD use her phone to play games (I wouldn't have after SD's attitude, but whatever). So I sit in the pool area watching Bs3 swim and after he's done, DW takes him to the changing room and I gather his stuff and go ask SD7 to get out of the chair so we can go. SD7 ignores me. I say it again, and she says "Not right now, I'm playing a game." I was pretty furious - this kid is incredibly disrespectful to ALL adults, and of course worse with me. I tell her "get up right now or I'm taking the phone away." So she makes a big production about it but comes over to the door. I try to talk to her about how much BS3 likes the lessons and that maybe we should sign her up too (she loves to swim). She looks at me and yells "I already know how to swim!" In the middle of the swim place - I was taken aback and said to her evenly: "Do not yell. Yes, you know how to swim a little bit, but can you do what BS3 is learning to do? Jump in and come up floating on your back? Can you swim 10 meters with your head under water? I'm saying it is good to know how to swim in case you are ever in trouble in the water." SD7 starts yelling again "I know how to swim! I don't need lessons, you are so mean! I'm a good swimmer, I'm not a baby!"

I had had enough. I tell her, quietly and forcefully to shut her mouth, she is not to speak to me like that. Then I go look in the changing room and tell DW that SD7 and I are going out to the car. I grab SD7's arm and haul her out to the car, pretty much dragging her. I tell her to give me the phone, she's lost that privilege, and to sit down and be quiet. I look at her and say: "You are VERY lucky I'm only your stepfather. Because if I was your Dad I would have smacked you for the way you just spoke to me. You DO NOT speak to adults like that - you shouldn't speak to ANYONE like that." She starts to argue - and I tell her "If you so much as say ONE more word to me, you are going to spend the rest of the day standing in the corner with nothing to do." I guess she got the point, she was quiet until DW got there and asked what was going on. DW asks Sd7 if it was true and SD7 starts yelling at DW about how I'm so mean, she doesn't need swimming lessons, she's not a baby, etc. DW grabbed her and told her if she knows what is best she better not raise her voice again. That she was going to have to stand in the corner when she got home, etc. So, Sd pouts all the way home, DW makes her stand in the corner for 30 minutes and then apologize... again she has no idea why she is apologizing so I tell her I can't accept the apology. She runs to the sofa puts her face in the pillow and screams, then throws the pillow down and starts groaning, fake crying, etc. Basically trying to make DW and I feel bad for her. Not happening... DW puts her back in the corner for another 30 minutes...

And then it was time for her to go to her Dad's. She left, was forced to say goodbye to me and whisper "Happy Father's Day" by DW.

After that, Father's Day got much better! Played with Bs3 for a while, and then DW took me on a brewery tour at a local brewery and cooked be a great steak dinner while BS3 and I played trucks together. So, everything after about noon was the idea father's day... too bad SD7 ruined the morning.