Why can't I deal with weekends I have my step kids?
My situation is probably not near as bad as msny. I have 16 year old Bs. 16 year old SD and a 10 year due ss we hardly ever see. (I am my husband's 3rd marriage. He has 2 kids with 2 different x wives. I cannot stand the every other weekend we have his daughter. It makes me feel like a terrible person!! I am a nice patient Mom. Used to teach preschool for many years. I have never spanked or went off on my child or anyone elses.. SO Why do I feel so awful when my SD is around. I practically shut completely down. She is a nice girl, pleasant gets good grades. She is not sarcastic or rude.I can't STAND when she is around. I literally sat in a chair all weekend barely moving. It makes .even sad when she is here. Like bad. She never showers or brushes her teeth, her dad let's her eat pure junk all the time even though she is at least 60 lbs overweight. She is so incredibly lazy it unbelievable. Won't even get up to throw away a paper plate sitting next to her.A part of me wants to divorce my husband just so I don't have to endure these weekends anymore.. It's like not having a weekend at all and it makes me feel so distant it awful!! Why do I feel this way?????
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The same reason you wouldn't
The same reason you wouldn't be able to stand any other lazy house guest that comes every 14 days. It is unnatural and stupid. Even a menstrual cycle has the decency to only visit once a month...and we only look forward to that visit when we're careless.
I could have written this
I could have written this blog myself 4 years ago. I too work with kids and have never felt the irritation and resentment for a child like i do with my sd. I blame dh for his lazy parenting. My best advice is to find a good friend to vent to over coffee eow. I found it did wonders for me. Busy yourself during her visits. I made a routine for myself that i did every weekend, even on the ones she wasn't there so i couldn't be accused of making plans only on her weekends. Breathe and go through the motions. You are not alone in feeling this way. *hugs*
You hate the weekends she's
You hate the weekends she's there because it brings out behaviors in your husband that you despise. She's only lazy because he serves her all the time.
It's hard to watch someone you love and respect raise their children poorly.