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Lets switch it up- Why is your SO with YOU? And how good are you in bed????

zerostepdrama's picture

Okay enough talk about the BM. Let's talk about you and how wonderful you are.

Why do you think your SO is with you?

What do you do that turns them on?

What do you do that excites them?

How do you know you are special to them?

What do you bring to the table that make your SO want you.

What are the compliments that your SO gives you?

What has your SO said about your sex life to you?

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WTF...REALLY's picture

Daily over here. Just a little at a time. I think he needs it to sleep well. lol

goincrazy.com's picture

Seriously you guys??!!! How do you even do it?! Lol FDH and I are very attracted to each other still but I hate giving bj's! Since I've been pregnant he's gotten like 3 in 6 months. It makes me gag and throw up and I can't even lie, I've been too lazy and tired to take one for the team. You ladies are showing me I better step my game up! Kudos to you to keeping your man satisfied. My man is happy but he would be over the moon with regular bj's!!!

Mercury's picture

Daily sex.

Dh and I have only skipped one day that I can remember. We even had sex the same day he had surgery once. Sometimes you have to get creative but we always do something. Wink

StepKat's picture

I tried to answer these questions individually but it would become way too much TMI lol. My DH loves me because I take such good care of him. I put his needs above my own and he does the same for me. So we are always focused on each. Like I said in my previous post, I’m open minded and adventurous. I do things that I know he loves and turns him on like dress up for him. I’m not sure I should go into detail lol

Mercury's picture

>>>>DH and I have many of the same interests--many of those interests he had prior to meeting me, but he was never able to enjoy those interests because the women he was with didn't enjoy them. I enjoy literature, art and music (classical). I would rather listen to a two-hour concert by the local symphony orchestra than attend any sporting event. My husband hates sports. <<<<

This is huge. Sometimes I think this is bigger than sex itself: shared interests.

StepKat's picture

Oh! Let me just add the one thing that really turns DH on about it. I’m not a dainty, delicate little flower. I’m a soldier and that really turns him on. I can get down and dirty training in the woods and then go to the range and fire a .50 cal. He’s told me the sexiest thing he’s ever seen is me wearing something tight while holding an AR-15. LOL Got to LOVE infantrymen. }:)

zerostepdrama's picture

My DH likes that I am independent. He knows I WANT him but I dont NEED him. He knows I can handle my own. Take care of myself.

He says that I am a good mother and that means a lot.

I take care of him. I handle all laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, etc. Though there are times I feel over whelmed and resentful about it, for the most part though I enjoy taking care of my man.

We have an active sex life. We have sex at least 3 times a week- sometimes more. And its rarely boring. Always up for new things.

I make him go outside his comfort zone. I make him do things for himself that he would never think to do. I make him do things for me, for us as a couple that he would never think to do.

DH loves that I have a firery attitude at times and stick up for myself and what I believe in.

I think that I take care of myself and I am decent looking and I know that he appreciates it. I work out. Eat right. Dress nice. I like to dress up for him in stuff that I know that he likes.

zerostepdrama's picture

Girl I will take you out dancing- Booty shaking dancing- getting down on the dance floor! LOL

blayze's picture

I think that he loves me because he never stopped and because I love having sex as much as he does! Biggrin

When we were in high school, SO patiently waited and moved from "classmate" to "main man" senior year... he told his buddies that he was going to get with me. They didn't believe him. But, he got the chance and we had a blast together. We were best friends who experimented A LOT with sex.

Let him tell it... the reason why I was unforgettable? I was the first girl to ever give him head! haha

We were in love, but the timing was off...both going away to college the next year. We tried to go close to each other...45 minutes apart. It worked for 6 months or so, and we tried to keep a connection, but we simply drifted apart.

Unbeknownst to me, SO said that he never loved any other woman after me. He became a dog and treated every woman like crap. He says it was hard to step down after you've had the best. Blum 3

He said he was really hurt and depressed when we split up, and the one song that he identified with was "Butterfly" by Mariah Carey. He didn't chase me, or come looking for me, even though he knew where I was. He waited... and he said he was excited when I came back into his life a few years ago... it makes him happy that I sought HIM out. He said he always knew I'd be back.

IslandGal's picture

My SO is insatiable when it comes to me - 5-7 nights a week just ain't enough sometimes. Granted, his ex was a lesbian so wasn't all that interested in sex with him after she had the kids so he just learnt to live with it.

Funny thing about that was at the beginning of our relationship, he warned me that he wasn't all that into sex and not to take it personally, it was just what he was like. Yeh, rightio - 2 months later - and he wants to do it every single night, morning - every chance he gets. When I reminded him of his "speech"..he got all shy and said he didn't realise it wasn't him - it was just that he felt nothing for BM.. whereas with me, he just can't get enough - and I'm exactly the same way.

He tells me I'm beautiful every day, several times a day. If I'm cooking, he'll play his guitar and sing. Dry humps me every chance he gets. Pinches my ass 10x a day (I do the same to him). He turns me on more than any man I've ever met and I can't get enough of him.

Confused.com's picture

Had to respond to this post, so much fun.

Why do you think your SO is with you? - Because he's never met a lady like me. I'm British living in America and he just loves all the differences that brings. I love, respect and care for him better than anyone else, I give him confidence and make him feel like he can do anything. I'm his best friend and he couldn't even begin to imagine life without me. These are his words not mine he said all this when he asked me to marry him.

What do you do that turns them on? - Oh it's a long list which I change around all the time.

What do you do that excites them? - I have a big bag of tricks to draw from, he's just putty in my hands if I take control, yet other times I encourage him to take control and he becomes the master :). When we first met and started dating he told me he had a low sex drive and and always had done. First time we had sex it was for 6 hours, I just blew his mind. He told his best friend it was the best sex he'd ever had in his life and never knew he could be like that. He worried he wouldn't be able to manage it a second time. So I wanted to show him what he was capable of we repeated that performance nearly ever night for the next 10 months. We've slowed down to 4-5 times a week, now we are a few years down the road but we still have hot sweaty 2-3 hour sex sessions every weekend. He's still a stud!

How do you know you are special to them? - He's totally 100% emotionally connected to me, he loves me more deeply than anyone else in his life. I would never ask him to (been tempted) but if I asked him to give up his kids for me he would. Even his family have told him if it ever came down to a choice he should choose me over his kids

What do you bring to the table that make your SO want you. - Being from Europe I'm very open minded to doing anything with him and he's blown away by this. I've educated him a lot......lol!

What are the compliments that your SO gives you? - All I've written here are things he's told me and said to me over the years. He says I'm beautiful all the time and he's so lucky to have me by his side. He makes me feel so loved.

What has your SO said about your sex life to you? - Its the best he's ever had and he never knew sex could be this good. The difference in his confidence is one of the biggest things, he's a different man to the man I met. I know BM is kicking herself for losing him, he looks better than ever and he says it's the happiest he's ever been.

As wonderful as our relationship is, we have the dark cloud of the psycho BM and the nasty, ungrateful, entitled skids hanging over us. I know we're all going through this with skids. We do our best to never mention the skids when they're not around. The stories I read on this site give me hope and strength to not let the skids effect our relationship. Ever other weekend on Sunday at 6:01pm as BM drives the skids away from our house my man is dragging me up the stairs pulling my clothes off....... Smile

misSTEP's picture

Why do you think your SO is with you? He told me that when he is in my arms, it feels like "home." I take care of most things that he has a lot of issues with like bills and anything technological. He loves that I am honest and loyal to a fault. He also thinks I'm super smart.

What do you do that turns him on? I like to bend over in front of him or let him see down my shirt but pretend I don't notice him looking.

What do you do that excites them? BJs

How do you know you are special to them? He brings me breakfast in bed occasionally, he will run a bubble bath for me, he cooks almost every meal. He wants to spend every minute of every day with me...too bad work gets in the way!

What do you bring to the table that makes your SO want you. Honesty, sweetness and intelligence. It is nice to be able to have a very intelligent conversation with someone who doesn't think you are being "snooty" because of your vocabulary. I had an ex once tell me that I made him feel stupid. I was just being myself I wasn't trying to make anyone feel badly!

What are the compliments that your SO gives you? You're beautiful, you are so sexy, cuddling is the best part of my day, I love my brainy wife (sung to the tune of Eddie Rabbitt's song)

What has your SO said about your sex life to you? WOW Smile I have also stroked his ego quite a bit since BM told him he sucked and that he was too small. UMMM..well, maybe if you are used to having 3 cocks in you at the SAME TIME or something! He is actually too damn BIG if anything and I have to sometimes remind him to take it easy on me }:)