BM1 is just clueless when it comes to Redface Magee. She just won't accept the fact that he needs serious help and with out it he could become very dangerous. That's my problem with her.
Inbred....oh boy...lets see.
She's gotten DH fired from damn near every job he's had because she thinks if she can get him far enough behind she can have him arrested.
She's tried to sleep with him several times.
If we don't take dPPP and SS7 on extra days because we have plans then she doesn't show up for DH's schedule visits.
She still calls his family and tries to get them on her side.
She has shown up at my house while DH was working and left the kids on the porch and drove away so I'd babysit for her.
She's accused me of abusing her child.
She is trying to get DH's kids to call her bf daddy and call DH old daddy
Honestly..I could on and on, but those are the ones that really piss me off.

she's a meth addled whore.

nuff said.

before all that tho', she was a half-assed parent and just generally not the type of person i would choose to be around. i dont *do* fake and shallow people.

The word "evil" comes to mind. I've gotten along with/had no problem with the exes of my other boyfriends...I just don't dig sociopaths.

I am seriously one of those people who likes and generally gets along with everyone. I cant think of anyone that I DON'T get along with other than Skids, BMs and now MIL as well. But it's not because of WHO they are, it's because of WHAT they do.

I tried to be friendly and cordial to BMs when DH and I were first dating. That lasted maybe a year and then the claws came out. When you come at me with claws out, I am going to shut your shit down.

But I think the major reason I dislike them all so much.. is because I LOVE my DH so much and I absolutely can't stand to stand by and watch the way these people manipulate him, use him, disrespect him and cause him anguish.

Im not mad that she's DH's ex...she's part of his past and I've accepted that. What I dislike is that she thinks she's so "perfect" and knows everything. She's so insecure and worried that her kids will like anyone (including their own father) more than her so it's made her controlling and bossy. She's also very VERY materialistic and all about money and I don't like anyone like that...actually heck, she's just a b--ch for no reason.

I'm indifferent to her...

I think she is greedy and a system scammer. But I dislike all people who do that crap. Try to act in need to get something for free when they dont really need it and it should go for a family that really needs it.

I think the things she has done to the skids and to DH directly defintely make me look at her like WTF. I think that is her being a shitty person. I just pray that karma catches up with her.

She has called me names to DH, and said my BS was a bastard child. But in all fairness I have called her some pretty horrible names and have said some pretty horrible things about her children as well.

Obviously I feel that I have done nothing to provoke the name calling to me or my BS, unlike her and the skids who have given me reasons to feel the way I do about them.

She hates me for just being me. For being married to her ex. For giving her ex a good life and happy life. She hates me because I stopped or try to put a stop to her greediness and the greediness of the skids.

The skids and I would probably get along better if it wasnt for her, but I also blame the skids for that as well. True they have learned all of her games all too well, but they are old enough to know better.

I dont hate her for being married to DH or for having his kids. I dont even hate her for feeling the way she does about DH. That is between them. I am just dislike the behavior I have seen from her that has directly affected my household.

My BM is such a hypocrite. In the beginning when I actually cared about being in SD's life, BM did everything she could to stop me. She had me banned from the school and made a false claim to CPS, among other things.

Now that I couldn't care less about being in SD's life, BM is mad about that. She's accused me of neglect (through her lawyer) and made all kinds of other allegations against me because of it. It's like she's insulted now that I don't think her precious princess is the greatest thing ever.

My issues with Sasquatch are old news...but it's really a 50/50 why I think she's an ignorant bitch.

1) She liked to cause problems for DH and I as soon as we moved in together. She texted in the wee hours of the morning and not important stuff it's was 'remember when' and my favorite text from her of all times is: "I have stinky feet." She always needed something repaired or help moving and the first person she called was DH. 50/50 my H's fault for not shutting her down despite of all my screaming.

2) She told DH that I was mean to him and their daughter and she offered to give him money to move out

3) She dumped her kid at my door when she lost her job for being drunk at work. So it went from EOW and Wednesday nights to Sd lived with us FT for 18 months. No break from SD, and no help from Sasquatch financially or otherwise. I was supporting everyone - my H was in school.

4) She got a 2nd DWI and needed money for an attorney so she told CSE that H had not paid her CS for 18 months - which is true and I warned him that he needed to modify his CO when SD was dumped at our house. So CS held DH in arrears for 18 months even tho SD lived with us during that time. Arrears was taken from our income tax return (thousands for 2 years)and I consider this stealing.

5)She called last summer and told DH that she loved him (mind you they have been divorced since 2003) again 50/50 his fault for not shutting her down.

6) She was (up until 2 months ago) calling once a month asking for extra money for one thing or another. Basically she was lying saying the money was for SD new glasses or a medical issue all the while it was to pay SD bail and court fees/attorney for a stealing charge. Again I consider this stealing.

My H told her a couple months ago after Sd turned 18 that he only wanted to hear from her (Sasquatch) if there was an actual medical emergency about SD18, and then he blocked her - it was one the best moments in our marriage!

I don't "hate" her, because that requires emotion involved. Although I'll admit I used to give her way too much head space and emotion until I made a personal decision to stop because it was only hurting me, my DH, my family, and my marriage.

She was nasty to me from day 1, just because I was dating the guy she left 7 years prior.

Along with being nasty, she started trying to insert herself into DH's life in order to push me out (becoming the "needy female").

Her dislike of me was NOT hidden from the SK's, who picked up on it very quickly. So not only did she not like me from day 1, they pretty much didn't either (and 8 years later, as young adults they *may* be coming around). She continues to promote hatred, even though I'd quit caring a long time ago.

She enjoyed living off of CS, and was always trying to filch even more money out of DH... especially after DH and I married and she realized I brought a pretty sizable income to the household.

She would always ask way too many questions about me... at first DH was more than willing to answer them until I told him to STOP disclosing MY personal information.

She has a horrible personality. NOT someone I'd want to go have a beer with if I knew her on a purely social level (and not knowing her as DH's ex).

I could pretty much come up with other stuff, but those are the high points.

Because when push comes to shove, my DH would rather piss me off than her. Every time.

Interesting... The skids bm was on meth got pregnant at 17 met my husband at 20 they got "accidentally" pregnant with his son.. Got married then cheated on my dh the five years they were married until she got the new husband to marry her. (he has money) Used my dh to babysit not only their kid but her new husbands kid while they went on trips, movies, etc.. Then when I came along 5years after the divorce, I broke up the family. Probably because I refused to watch extra kids so their partying stopped. Then her son who is almost 15 got raped/ molested when he was 10,while they went off to a party while he stayed with her new hubby's family...I figured it out before any of them. So he is in counseling and it's my fault because I married her ex and she can't manipulate him anymore... }:)

I've been lurking on this site for a few weeks now and just had to sign up.

BM is an escort/prostitute who routinely posts "advertisements" on days when she has skid. (Yes, we have definitive proof and yes SO brought it to the attention of his attorney who brought it to the attention of her attorney. Visitation is now limited to daytime hours only, no overnights.)

Listen, I don't care if you want to lay on your back and spread your legs all day in order to make a buck, I really don't. But bringing strange men into your apartment (who are paying for sex with you) is just ASKING for trouble. It's not an environment a small child (or any child, really) should be exposed to. She's lucky we haven't hired a private investigator or called the authorities to "check-in" on her.

Oh where do I start...
1. Her name for me when she learned I was alive is "Cunt"
2. After she finally figured out DH and I were truly serious she would tell DH often how much she still loved him
3. She would teach her young kids to make fun of my moles/freckles
4. She's a horrible mother and a very selfish person
5. The day before DH and I got married she text him begging him not to marry me and that she didn't agree with it

Basically she has mentally state of a teenage girl, everything is about her, she has never done anything wrong and she's fucking prefect. She doesn't understand why she has lost all custody to her kids.

1. The fact that she uses the skids to try to "control" DH which affects my life. Example: telling him he had to take the skids over New Years this year, even though it's her year because she has "plans to go out of town and she would hate to see them stranded" Giving DH a guilt trip. Thereby completely ruining the plans I had for New Years.

2. That she expects us to take the skids during her time when it's convenient for her, but will never let DH have any extra time that he asks for.

3. That she allows her DH to try to make the parenting plans with my DH. Like changing pick-up
times/locations and rules of access.

4. And worst of all in my opinion, she has 2 of the skids so drugged up on ADHD meds they are like zombies, and is now (according to SS11) topping up their prescribed dose after school with an entire second dose, because she does not want to parent, but with-holding this information from us, so the skids are detoxed and going through withdrawals on our time.

5. The never ending court. It never ends, her attorney is now asking for all of my financial information, what I make a year, what dependents do I have, what my mortgage is. What my savings are, and do I have any assets. Why does it even matter? She is married, and DH does not need access to all BM's DH's financials.

!. The way she lives her life, top to bottom.

If I had met her through some other random method I would still dislike her. There is nothing to like. Ok, one thing, she has always been pleasant to my face and never wanted DH back. Must always give her credit for that.

Now, back to the Great Reality. She is a barely functioning human who is propped up by MY dh, the state, and her own parents. Not to mention the twisted ways she uses her children for her own purposes. She's not outright evil, she's just an adolescent in the body of a middle aged couch potato.

I need a reason?

Reasons why I loathe bm:

1- She thinks she is the best looking person alive. She's not bad looking at all, but I believe that no 40 year old should be going around flaunting her breasts and thighs. She may wear designer clothes, but hasn't learned what size to buy... Nor has she learned that a clown is not your best makeup model!
2- She pretends to be MOTY but has chosen not to spend Xmas with SS7 in the last 4 years. Haircuts are on DH and myself and if we don't clip his nails, they turn into claws, as she won't. Nice, isn't it?
3- She has a great, well paid job; nevertheless, and although she also gets quite a good amount in CS, we have to pay and buy extras all the time. I don't mind the money itself; I just hate knowing that she pockets it for her own benefit.
4- She lives next door and has told neighbors and friends that I have an eating disorder, which I don't. Not my fault my metabolism is great and hers isn't!
5- She's always asking DH to keep SS7; no weekend is "sacred". She's either tired, sick or has lots of work to do.
6- She's a fake. She pretends to be nice but is the coldest, most unfriendly person. She's the kind of person who steps on a waiter while smiling to a MD. I hate that!!!
7- I resent that she has a great social life while I feel alone.