Blog hog... DH did it again
SD calls DH. She is going to the ER. Can he pick up SGD. Of course, we are not a we then. He says yes. He is thinking of picking up DD then SGD. I shut that down, I picked DD up, then he left to get SGD. 15 mins later he is home, with SGD. SDs best friend who DH hates is living with them. SGD made the comment he could watch her if daddy (she is 11 and this is her SF!!!) isn't home. DH said no, he can't. Brought her here. Called SSILto make sure he was home first before taking SGD home.
I do not want SGD around my kids. I don't want her around my pets. But even after he flips out on me about how "we" need to be a "we" and make desisions together this apparently only applies to my kids. And what he wants with my kids. There is no "we" with SGD or SD. But that is a whatever, the only thing.... Keep SGD away from my kids.
I also really get upset (I have keep my mouth shut on this, so far) that DH over rides SD to SGD. If she lets her best friend watch SGD then DH needs to keep his mouth shut talking to SGD. The only conversation needs to take place between SD and SGD. He doesn't see it, but SGD was just given a tool. Either to get back at SD... Papa, mommy had best friend watch me. Or against SD... Well, papa doesn't think I have to listen to him. She does and has played these games before.
Plus, SD is doing really good. She takes care of the kids. She has been doing great. And DH will NOT give her any credit. All he was asked to do was pick up and drop off SGD. Sorry, he gave up control. Leave it be.
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You must accept SGA. My word.
You must accept SGA. My word. You cannot expect DH to cut the child out of his life.
Dh needs to drop off the
Dh needs to drop off the little hellion where her mother told him to. You and your children/pets have a right to live unmolested.
I can see your point of view.
I can see your point of view. But I changelle you to live with a kid who is the same age as your DD and watch her abuse pets, your own child and attack you every time your DH goes to work. And then tell me that she should be welcome in your home.
Even the therapist I had DH take her to stated she is very immature and told DH to back off and let her grow up.
Jealous?? So just because she is not mine and I want to protect those I am responsible and do not want her in my house, I'm jealous?? Any other stereotypes you want to throw out?!?!
DHs double standard is bull. I need to talk to him about everything to do with DD and BS because "we" are a "we". His words. But with SGD and SD he jumps.
FauxOSD is doing a great job with having SGD back. I'm impressed actually. DH needs to let her mom be. I have Zero issues with YSD and have been pretty non-bias with fauxOSD. In fact ran into her Friday when we went out to eat and I went to smoke with her. I just don't want her crazy around DD and BS.
Even YSD and OSD have told DH he is rediculous with SGD. No one understands why DH is how he is with her. Even the therapist can't figure it out.
Wait- isn't this the SGD that
Wait- isn't this the SGD that has attacked her children and pets and is basically the Tazmanian Devil and completely out of control?
There's a difference between "accepting" that your DH will have a relationship with his GD that protects the rest of his family, and sitting back like a door mat allowing this insanity to rip your home apart.
Yup.
Yup.
Has attacked my children, my
Has attacked my children, my pets and myself. She has dislocated my jaw and left bruises from kicking and hitting me. Left a nice door nob bruise on my side from slamming the door open into me. SGD has left welts on my DD, and slammed my son into the wall. She has kicked cats in the head, shaken another cat, has slammed my 4 lb Pomeranians head into the side walk. She has squeezed my sons rats (when he had them and she was 8.. Too old to not know better) THIS is why I feel as I do and I have EVERY right to keep my children, pets and myself safe.
DH can have his relationship AWAY from me, my children and my pets. But he should not be undermining her mother in the processes.
Well she was 8-11 while this
Well she was 8-11 while this all happened. If you notice most of it has been directed at me. After the issues with the animals I told DH ( and her therapist agreed) she is to never touch my animals again. Period. DH has tried to undermine this by saying he was watching or tried to argue that she has changed. I shut it down everytime. She has changed so much the last time I was left alone with her, she threatened to call the cops on me, break my phone, and beat me up. She shoved me into the wall that time. That was the beginning of this year and the last time I was alone with her.
My children have been kept safe since I realized DH was not going to actually follow counselors advice and just baby and excuse her.
I have made it pretty clear but obviously not clear enough and will need to go over this in counseling yet again SGD stays away from my children.
I am an idiot. I thought DH was more like me. BS has OCD/Aspergers and I have done everything (to the point his charter/homeschool teacher told me she has never seen a parent so involved) to give him the tools he needs in life. My DD is learning disabled and I have been right there doing everything I can. I am not a lazy parent. These kids didn't ask to be born. I owe them my best until they are 18, then it's on them.
For the last 6 months DH has had SGD on medication he decided to put her on against therapists advice. Her counseling has stopped. It's just medicate her now. I don't agree with how SGD has been raised or treated. She has had lazy spoiling babing treatment from DH for years. And now she is back with her mom because he couldn't control her.
Like I said. I am an idiot. I truly thought DH was more like me and would follow therapist advice, would do what she needed. But he only cared about making her happy, and it has ruined her. She is stuck with who he has created. And I don't want her around here. But it is not 100% her fault that she is this way.
No. They aren't his kids. He
No. They aren't his kids. He has one bio.
OSD is his ex-Sd from his marriage 20 years ago. SGD is that SD kid. He didn't even have a relationship with SGD until she was 4. Has had my kids live with him as long as SGD did. This whole situation is crazy.
DH has been told by every therapist, friend, school even his own bio that SGD belongs with her mom and he needs to let SD and SGD be. But he can't.
My relationship with his DD is awesome. She babysits for me (she is 25) she calls me mom introduces me as mom. She is family and a friend. Oldest FauxSD is actually someone I really like. I just had to draw a line with the bi-polar problem drinking and my kids. She hasn't had any real issues in a year. Last issue she got arrested walking to a cab from the bar. Drunk in public and they pulled up a very old warrant. But I hung out with her on Friday when we ended up at the same restaurant. If I didn't have kids I would spend more time with her, just have to keep boundaries in line.
SGD11... Out of control. No interest at all.
SGS9..major anger issues because of his dad. But he listens to me and overall not a bad kid
SDs SS8... A really sweet boy. Would like to spend more time with him. But boundaries
SGD2. This little girl is going to have issues. She is already getting out of control and SD can't control her.
SSIL... He is a really good guy. We have a lot in common as we both were the same career field in the Air Force. It makes SD uncomfortable so I keep my distance.