This weekend BS has a wrestling meet in Ex's town. Ex has not been able to see BS wrestle since he started 3 years ago. Mostly because Ex doesnt have a car, lives 45 minutes away from our town and works weekends.

I let Ex know about BS's meet and he is going to try to make it. BS is obviously very excited.

DH has attended 90% of BS's meets. This is a big deal because DH isnt really into the "kid" thing. LOL.

I am really worried about feeling uncomfortable around Ex and DH.

Ex and I "get along". We co parent well. We dont agure. Mostly because I do all of the work and pay for everything and Ex knows that I do it all so he just goes with the flow. Its on him to step up and do what he needs to do. (long story) But in general we get along.

Ex always tries to be friendly to DH and DH kind of blows him off. I think its rude. I dont think that DH needs to be overly friendly but I dont think he needs to be rude either. Being RUDE doesnt help anything at all.

Ex and DH are OPPOSITES- 100%. Ex is friendly, social, outgoing, talkative. DH is the opposite of all of that. He sits at every meet and maybe mutters a few words. He doesnt engage with any of the other wrestling parents. I think they have given up trying to even talk to him. I on the other hand talk to all the wrestling parents. BS and I do appreciate DH being at the meets though. I think he just shows his support differently.

I think that DH has a lot of resentment for Ex because he is basically "raising" his child while Ex is doing his own thing and is a parent when he wants. But in all fairness DH is a SP when he wants. It's really me doing all the raising of BS. But I can get where DH is frustrated at.

We havent all 3 been around each other in a setting like this in probably 3+ years and that was at a soccer game. Ex had bought his GF at the time and we all sat by each other and all was fine. A lot has changed though since then, including Ex moving to the city he is in now and basically leaving it up to me and DH to raise BS.

Because of BM issues, DH just automatically thinks Ex= be a jerk. I dont believe this at all. I grew up with ALL of my SPs getting along. I grew up with Exes getting along. So its different for me.

Obviously I care first and foremost how DH feels but I also dont want to feel uncomfortable. I dont want BS to feel the tension in the air.

I do plan on talking to him about it beforehand.