Not sure why I have given this much thought. Really considering all the shit I put up with the skids.

Refer back to my prior blog about Xmas Eve dinner with the skids for some background.

When MSD and YSD got to dinner they did not even acknowledge me or BS9, which is fine. Even though I think its shitty to ignore a 9 year old that you used to be nice to.

BS9 has picked up on my feelings for the skids. I havent outright told him anything bad regarding the skids but I have made reference to their behavior as to why they are not allowed over to the house anymore. I guess I have told him the "kid version" as to what is going on. Only because he doesnt understand why the girl skids used to come around and like him and now they dont even acknowledge him when they see him.

So in general I think this makes BS uncomfortable and I think he was a little nervous at dinner.

GB (MSD's son) was sitting at the end of the table and BS says "He has big ears!"

I know that BS didnt mean it to be hateful. I think he just happened to notice something and was trying to think of something to say. He is 9, so obviously his thought process isnt that well.

I know BS wanted to go up and talk to GB but he could feel the vibe coming from MSD- "Dont get towards me or my kid." That is why I didnt ask to hold GB or anything. I would smile at him, but that is all.

Of course as soon as BS said that, MSD said in the nastiest voice "Well you have big ears too!"

I did say something to BS along the lines of "BS you too had big ears when you were little and GB just needs time to grow into them like you did." And I did tell him, next time dont say something like that because it might hurt someone's feelings.

Of course I am left with the feeling of the nastiness of MSD voice, even though I know she was just sticking up for her child. Even though she should know that BS wasnt trying to be mean or hurtful.

And I think, Oh I'm sure the girl skids and BM are probably using that as ammo to think of mean things to say about me and BS, etc. I know how they are and how they work.

This is just a reminder of shit that is said that becuase you are in a step family, things are taken the wrong way or people say stuff they dont mean out of nervousness, etc.