Do your kids or step kids take things to school they aren't suppose to take?
Got SD a good camera for her Bday. Told her she didn't need to take it to school because she is forgetful and I didn't want her to lose it. Bus comes to our house to pick up the kids. When it's cold I go outside and wait for the bus and holler at them. Bus driver isn't usually on time so I can't just have them go at a certain time. SD has a habit of waiting for me to go outside then going in her room and getting stuff she isn't suppose to take to school then trying to sneak it back in the house when she gets home. I take clothes to her room this morning to put on her bed so she can put them up and her fucking camera isn't on her shelf. I tell Dh about it and he tells me maybe she thought she could take it. I told him no I told her not to when we got it for her and that she knew she wasn't suppose to take it because she waited for me to go outside to get it from her room because she didn't get it while I was in the house. What is with this kid? Anybody have this problem?
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It pisses me off because she
It pisses me off because she knew she wasn't suppose to take it and she waits for me to go outside to get it. She knew she was doing wrong because last time she was taking stuff to school when I would go outside it was my makeup. I would slowly start missing makeup in the house. One day I came in the house because I forgot something and she come running out of her room. When she got home I noticed she had mascara on, which she doesn't own any because she hasn't yet learned how to wipe it off her face before bed I suppose because she won't ever do it. So I look in her backpack when I'm getting out her planner and yep, there's my makeup. She waits for us to go outside because she thinks she can take stuff and we won't find out.
Yeah she is getting it taken
Yeah she is getting it taken away for 2 weeks. I have had this problem too many times with her. The only other thing I know what to do is to tell her that once I go outside, she isn't allowed back in her room before she gets on the bus. If she is really sneaky she will go back to her room anyway and I won't know what to do if that happens. She likes to keep stuff in her coat pockets because she keeps her coat in her room. From now on I'm going to make her keep her coat in the living room closet that way she can't sneak anything in it. Pretty sad I have to keep people from being sneaky in my own house.
She is 15. Lately it's been
She is 15. Lately it's been like 0 degrees here with the windchill so I was trying to keep her from freezing because the bus driver is never here at the same time everyday.
Oh I'm not sure DH is going
Oh I'm not sure DH is going to agree with her waiting outside. If it were my final decision I would make her wait outside. DH seems to think she is glass and that she is going to bust if she gets too cold. I know that's what needs to be done. I can't trust her to not be deceitful when I'm outside freezing my ass off for her so it won't work to trust that she will stay out of her room once I go outside to wait for her bus.
She seriously thinks I'm
She seriously thinks I'm dumb. Last time when I found out she took my makeup, we gave her sentences and she was grounded until she completed them, which took her about a week and a half. We took away all of her stuff as well because we told her if she doesn't respect my stuff she shouldn't have any of her own stuff. She went without her stuff for a month. Would of been longer but we thought she was doing good so we wanted to give her a chance. I'm guessing it was about 3 weeks ago that we gave her stuff back because it was right before Christmas break. She got it at the beginning of December for her birthday and still had school for a few weeks and didn't take it to school then because she knew she wasn't suppose to take it. However today she got a wild hair up her butt and decided that I wouldn't find out if she took it. Pisses me off the most that she can look straight at my face before she leaves knowing she is doing something wrong.
Oh yeah I usually let DH know
Oh yeah I usually let DH know things before I talk to SD. Then when she gets home DH and I talk to her together. This way she doesn't feel that she can get away with anything. Sometimes it takes some real bitching to get DH on the same page because well, he sometimes thinks he needs to do parenting a little different than me.
Maybe that's why it irks me
Maybe that's why it irks me so bad because I didn't do it without permission. If my parents told me not to take something because they didn't want it to get lost, I would listen.
My skids do this too. We have
My skids do this too. We have a no complaints rule - if a toy or something gets brought to school and broken/lost/confiscated, tough shit. It doesn't get replaced, and you don't get to bitch about it.
Reminds me of the cologne saga with my skid1. A couple of years ago, I had purchased new cologne for DH for Christmas. He gave his half empty bottle of older cologne to skid1, who took it to school one day and then threw his backpack with the bottle in it at another kid. Well, shockingly enough, the bottle broke. He came home and threw a FIT about how I was supposed to run out and replace it. I laughed in his face, and let him know that I don't have to do anything for him, and his father was nice enough to give it to him but obviously he can't take care of shit so he didn't need a new bottle until HE could pay for it himself. Shut that down right quick.
I've told her that she
I've told her that she doesn't need to take it to school. I don't want it broke, I don't want it lost, and I don't want it stolen. She of course says she agrees. I have told her that if any of the above was to happen then it would be her loss because it was her responsibility and that she would not only not have her camera but that we would NEVER buy her a new one. She of course says she agrees again. Then she decides to be a sneaky shit and take it anyway.
I guess when she gets home I
I guess when she gets home I will let her know that I know she took her camera. Knowing her she will deny it and just say that she didn't put it in her regular spot, even though all the rest of her camera stuff is in the same spot like her printer and camera case. I'm tired of doing for this kid and constantly being disrespected. She knows her consequences but chooses to do the wrong things anyway. When I ask her why she continues to do these things all I get is, " I don't know."
My husband is usually working 12 hours a day and BM is not in the picture. It seems to me that maybe I should take a step back and stop doing so much for someone that seems to only care about what she can do for herself and doesn't seem to care what her actions not only do to herself but to the people around her. She knows what happens when she disobeys so I just don't understand why she repeats the behavior.