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trusag's picture

Submitted by trusag on Fri, 01/09/2015 - 4:01pm

How do you handle different parenting styles? I am more direct and straightforward but refrain from telling his kids anything. I leave it to dad. Bio dad is lenient and has more patience and doesnt mind telling kids 4x to do something. I was raised differently and dont operate this way. i find his kids lazy and babied by him. I dont have kids but am biased and think i was raised a little better. Lol.. Either way, these are his kids and used to a certain style. They could have better manners etc. But again, i dont want to cause any waves. Bd says i am a nag. I dont want kids thinking i am mean or have them ignore me. Otherwise, i am afraid i will get really annoyed with their presence. I DONT think farting in the living room without saying excuse me is polite. It is gross. But a boy thing!? Dad is protective of kids...

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ChiefGrownup's picture

Submitted by ChiefGrownup on Fri, 01/09/2015 - 4:19pm

That one was a hill to die on for me. Was not going to live like that. Put an end to that before we even got married. Girl has finally figured out how to control her bodily functions until she's in private.

In short, the answer to your question is defend your personal standards. If dad can't make kids imitate civilization, don't be around them. Let dad date you on his free weekends. Sounds like you're not married yet so just don't be around them. If Dad complains, tell him you don't want to be around such bad manners. Nuthin' but the truth.

Totalybogus's picture

Submitted by Totalybogus on Fri, 01/09/2015 - 7:57pm

You both need to agree on house rules and consequences. The main thing is making sure you guys are a United front and support each other. He definitely will need to back you up. If something happens that either of you disagree on, you guys are still going to have to back one another up in front of them and shelve it until you guys are alone and discuss.