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Submitted by goingslowlycrazy on Wed, 03/04/2015 - 5:24am

Is it normal to be a different person the week the skids are coming? I feel anxious almost like a panic attack on the Saturday morning..I dread it..I dread what they are going to bring up or say about the BM I just don't want to hear it.. I don't even want to come home when they are there..it's such an intrusion.they trash my home, don't wash or have any boundaries..I can't cope

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Submitted by Monchichi on Wed, 03/04/2015 - 5:29am

Yes it's normal. I have nightmares from the Monday before SS arrives on the Friday. I become moody and anxious. I even plan being out on the Sunday's he's coming way before the time.

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Submitted by Rae06 on Wed, 03/04/2015 - 6:51am

I feel like a totally different person any time there has to be any interaction with the skids. I don't even like seeing them out in public. In the beginning I wanted a relationship with them so bad, but now I just want them to go away. They stopped visiting after Christmas so I'm thankful for that,hate myself for feeling that way but it's the way it is. Bm has turned them against dad from birth and after they divorced it only got worse. She has turned them into demons. I don't even want my husband around them, which doesn't seem to be a problem bc they won't even speak to us.

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Submitted by justanothergurlNJ on Wed, 03/04/2015 - 10:50am

OHHHH YEA, I can't tell you how many of these blogs I've written. I HATE HATE HATE it! Like the previous poster said, a werewolf with the full moon coming.

I get resentful of their intrusion into my home and my peaceful life, As hard as I try to hide it from SO he picks up on my mood change right away. By the time Friday rolls around you cam cut the tension between SO and I with a knife. It strains our relationship. Let's not forget the week before SO weekend BM finds 100000000000000000000000 reasons to text or call SO,in So's defense most go unanswered.

So now what I do is keep myself busy with outside activities. Even if they are errands, grocery shopping,oil change, gym. My bd cheers in Comp so that takes up a lot of my time. And the #1 thing I do is if those little hell beasts are acting the fucking fool and SO tries to discipline them and they don't listen I step in, only when they are misbehaved otherwise I IGNORE them. I used to not say anything because of what will be said to BM. You know what I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. If she wants to let her kids run around HER house and act like hell beasts then good, but NOT IN MY FUCKING HOUSE. I didn't raise my bios like that and I will NOT have any child misbehave in my house and think they make the rules FUCK NO!

Anyway Yea I feel your pain. Ohhh wine it helps too.

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Submitted by canigetabm on Wed, 03/04/2015 - 11:42am

Unfortunately, I do not feel your pain because my SKID never fucking leaves so I must be an irritable bitch 24/7. Oh sorry....I was just feeling more irritated that I get to go home and see my skid's lovely face and adorable attitude...oh that's everyday! LOL.

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Submitted by goingslowlycrazy on Wed, 03/04/2015 - 3:29pm

I have one here who never fucking leaves either..I have to smile and grit my teeth...but he drives me insane..that lazy way of speaking that sounds as if he's stoned or stupid (both actually) and the boundless enthusiasm of his father towards him when he so much as looks in his direction it's pathetic to see a grown man so weak..and so desperate for his sons affection when the kid really could not give a shit

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Submitted by canigetabm on Wed, 03/04/2015 - 4:15pm

I hear you, my SO feels SD farts glitter and rainbows. If I mention something about BS15, immediately its well SD15 blah, blah, blah. I don't care, I was talking about my BS15. Now I say nothing because I don't want to hear how awesome she is. NOT!

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Submitted by fedupstep on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 9:07pm

I get extremely quiet on skid weekend. Not that DH and SD16 notice. They have their love fest and I just busy myself.

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Submitted by goingslowlycrazy on Wed, 03/11/2015 - 1:52am

Well it was our evening to have them last night and I went to see my mother...and it was so nice to be out of the madness...this is our weekend with them now but my bd has just informed me that she's taking me out for the day on Sunday ...his reply...'what so I'm left on my own with the kids?' Yes dear but one correction, not the kids..YOUR kids...

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Submitted by Raggles on Wed, 03/11/2015 - 3:21am

My skids were with us full time and yes i knew that when i moved in. What i didnt know was they had nl boundarkes set by their father. Now SD15 has never been a problem. SD17 a total different story. I used to dread going home. Horrible atmosphere in the house which went away funnily enough when SD17 wasnt around! Even SO made a comment about the difference in the house when she wasnt there!
And yet still was my fault we didnt get along.
My health is better now i dont live with them. They dont stress me out anymore as not my problem

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Submitted by goingslowlycrazy on Wed, 03/11/2015 - 4:38pm

No nor did I ...and I know exactly whoa you mean about not wanting to go home..i often think about leaving but not sure how... But I'd love not to have these problems..all the drama is centred around the skids and the lack of boundaries..it's like a vicious circle going round and round