Karma is really going to kick my ass again because I can't stop wishing SIL would become a SM. This woman's life couldn't be more perfect with her 2 bios, 1 marriage, no steps. But of course, she feels emboldened enough to criticize and judge the step life we live as a complicated blended family. What bothers me is the complete hypocrisy as she is constantly begging others to "please recognize the child crisis!! We're in a crisis where so many children need foster families!! Please become a foster parent!" SIL is a social worker so I'm sure she sees and deals with this issue...BUT, if she cares so so much about this foster crisis, then why in the world hasn't she become a foster parent herself?? Begging other people to solve a problem doesn't make you part of the solution! I'm not judging her for not being a foster parent, but I'm sick and tired of hearing how SD12 needs this and that and we are not caving to everything she wants in life and how I don't provide enough love & security for SD...I don't need to hear that from a person who has never been a step and I certainly don't need to hear it from someone who has been purposely cold toward me from the beginning because I'm not part of the Original Family. This woman also reports back to FIL on things she disagrees with me on. Put your money where your mouth is, SIL and go invite a foster child to live with you! I'm pretty sure a foster child would be easier than a step though.