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Submitted by Vanessa68 on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 9:08am

Hello everyone,

I hope you are well, many of you helped me through a breakup with a man with 2 kids, the one that I slept in the other room…lol
I am much better, reading alot, honestly haven't been as upset as i thought I would have. I have cried over worse men for less.
He was the one that just poofed after I said I wouldn't stay over anymore and the kids need to stop climbing on you when i am there and you need to respect me..
Its been three weeks and no word from him, I can't get rid of the pictures yet. Somedays I think about him a lot, some days not at all.
This is the longest we have gone without talking some days "he is going to text" other days "its done"

I have put a profile up on Ok cupid, stops me from dwelling, I put on it that I am just out of a relationship.

So please…

Give it to me…:)

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Submitted by Last In Line on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 9:29am

Good job on letting him go and getting started moving on. I wouldn't jump back into a relationship with anyone at this point, but then again, you never know where life is heading or who you might stumble across.

Spend some time focusing on you.

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 9:41am

He is obviously not the guy for you. He cannot even have a grown up conversation with you about the relationship? You are better off without him.

Have some fun, focus on creating friendships, you will meet the right guy.

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Submitted by ChiefGrownup on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:13pm

You're doing great, girl. By dating you'll remember how desirable you are. And you will forget what's-his-name a bit more with every date.

You are well shot of him. If you were doubting your own rejection of his weird parenting, the way he dropped you so callously should give you reason enough to be certain you have done the right thing. He is not emotionally mature in any way. Enjoys being fawned over by his children. Has no idea what real love is -- for kids or for partners.

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Submitted by Vanessa68 on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 12:20pm

Thanks…

I have to say thats the hardest… at least send some BS text… one of you mentioned he is probably waiting for me to chase….I have to much pride for that.
It definitely sucks….roller coaster of emotions…

Now I know why he wanted to wait to meet the kids….I lasted the longest, others walked away before….smarter…:)
My first relationship with a guy with kids.

I know there are men that are out there with kids who are healthy and have boundaries with their kids…not all of them are douches...

dood's picture

Submitted by dood on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 2:26pm

... well, none of those men have women on THIS site, but yeah, the law of averages would imply that there are men with healthy boundaries with their kids Smile

Good for you for staying true to yourself!

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 2:54pm

Ahem, I am one of the lucky ones who has a DH with healthy boundaries with his kids and the BMs. So yes, there are men out there but I guess they are rare?

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Submitted by Vanessa68 on Wed, 07/15/2015 - 3:04pm

Thanks….

That gives me hope… I didn't want to write off every man with kids, just know the difference.
I dont blame either of us, I don't hate him, I am not bitter…. sad, disappointed, absolutely!

Did he deal with it properly? No, but maybe thats all he knows, and maybe he is a douche….

Either way I wish him love and happiness…

Really I do….lol