warning- explicit language to follow.
FUCKING REALLY DH? m.f'ng peanut butter and g.d. jelly. seriously?
so dh is in bed last night and i walk through the bedroom to our bathroom.
on the way out, dh says "why didnt you make kaos a sandwich?"
me "um, cuz he's TWELVE, he's more than capable himself."
dh "but he asked YOU."
me "yeah, and he's qualified to make his own damn pb&j."
dh "he said he asked you and you said no."
me "he asked me, and i told him i knew he could do it, give it a try, the only way to learn is to practice."
of course, it got worse. i told dh that i'm not gonna do shit *for* him, i'd rather he LEARN to be a capable human being instead of doing simple stuff *for* him for the rest of his freaking life. dh said "well *IIII* got up and made it for him, when you coulda just done it to start with. thanks for nothing - you're just gonna sit out back with your beer and cigarette anyway!" "and YOU are just gonna lay up on your ass in bed, same fucking difference!"
i feel bad for that last comment. i do. but really... over FUCKING PEANUT BUTTER AND JELLY?
must be on his manstrual cycle.
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umm not to be funny but I
umm not to be funny but I think your husband needs some PMS medication. My 7 year old can make sandwiches, cereals, fry up breakfast, cakes, scones, pancakes, salads, roast stuffed chicken breasts, stir fry rice and steak. I am WORRIED I haven't taught her enough meal types.
no joke! i want him GONE at
no joke! i want him GONE at 18, not 35!!! how fucking helpless can dh make him.... wait- dont answer that.
*bingo* I love my daughters.
*bingo* I love my daughters. I promise I really do. I want them to launch successfully without bringing their laundry back every weekend, coming over to eat because I was too lazy to teach them how to feed themselves, mopping their own floors etc.
As much as we love them, they have to launch one day. Aside for which I want to cruise the Greek Islands one day and pinch Greek men's bums. Drink cocktails and eat seafood. I can't do that still supporting my kids.
Gee, Tuff... Wish I could
Gee, Tuff... Wish I could share pictures here.
I have pictures of one of my kids proudly showing off the pbj he made himself at 2 1/2.
My XSD couldn't butter & cut a pancake at 13. Constructing an entire sandwich is more difficult.
Wait, he's bitching because
Wait, he's bitching because he had to do something for his own kid? Not even HAD to but chose to? Hahahahaha.
no, he's bitching cuz kaos
no, he's bitching cuz kaos told on me, saying that i had said "no" cuz tuff is a big ol' meanypants.
rme.
He should have done the same
He should have done the same thing; told the kid, "No, you can make your own sandwich."
Instead, he chose to make it for him, then bitch at you for not doing it.
I don't think spouses have any business being mad at their partner for not doing something for their kid. He did not have a valid reason for starting that argument, you had every right to tell your SS no.
Awesome A.
Awesome
A.
sal inspired me last night
sal inspired me last night too }:) i'm still smiling about it!!!
My SKids started making their
My SKids started making their own lunches at my house at 6 & 8. If a 12yr old can't slap some peanut and jelly on bread, he's never launching.
Be kinder to your sister step
Be kinder to your sister step mother, woman. She needs compassion and positive thoughts on kaos launching.
Sorry, I'm not in much
Sorry,
I'm not in much better shape. Every time I tell SS9 to tie his shoes, he breaks down sobbing.
My eight year old
My eight year old granddaughter has been making sandwiches for a while now, she has even made one for the SD17 because she is lazy. I don't care if he told on me or not I would NEVER make him a sandwich, he needs to be doing that for himself. He sounds very lazy and entitled!!
Mine probably would've told
Mine probably would've told me I was too dumb to eat. That's likely what I would've told mine.
Please tell the two male
Please tell the two male fucktards in your home that my friend's son with Down Symdrome could make a sandwich before he was 12. Even one with meat and cheese.
Inform them that SS is even more delayed that someone with a serious disability.
well according to the chore
well according to the chore chart someone linked to a few days ago, ages 9-11 should be able to make simple meals, amd ages 12-14+ should be able to make full meals and meal plans.
i guess pb&j is too advanced. :O
SS12 knows damn well how to
SS12 knows damn well how to make a sandwich, but he'd rather have adult slaves at his beck and call like royalty. Same thing with "I can't fiiiiiiinnnnnnnd iiiiiit" means: YOU go look FOR me.
In real life, skids won't have an adult slave to follow them around and be their step 'n' fetch butler. . .or maybe they will (living in biomom/biodad's basement until well into their 40s)
Oh boy! We need a "failure
Oh boy! We need a "failure to launch" ship, where we plop them at 18. They'll figure out the basics of sustaining life eventually, or perhaps get voted off the boat.
"Did your DH grow up with a
"Did your DH grow up with a mom who did everything for him?" YES.
Exactly! DP's mom did it, and
Exactly!
DP's mom did it, and they had a housekeeper come in a couple times a week so he never had to do anything.
Then when he moved in with his dad as a teen (his dad was fairly well off back then) he had a daily housekeepr so again never had to do anything.
DP really thinks that you don't have to LEARN this stuff, it just HAPPENS.
(yeah, and that's why I'm always asking him to clean up his stuff! Cover doesn't just make it HAPPEN!)
I couldn't hold my tongue any
I couldn't hold my tongue any longer and asked FDH why SD, almost 12, can't make her own sandwiches. His reply: "What?? I can't make my daughter a sandwich if I want to??!"
So every time she plops herself at the island and tells her daddy that she wants a sandwich, he jumps up to make it for her and I have to bite my tongue and keep from telling him that he treats her like a baby, the same as he's always bitching that BM does. Grrr...
DH showed SS to grill steak n
DH showed SS to grill steak n chicken, fry eggs n sausage, cook mac n cheese...etc when he was 11/12 when SD, who spends most of her time with BM still didn't know how to turn on the stove when she was 18. My boy knew how to make quesadilla, grill hot dog...when he was 10/11. DH has one rule for the boys that men don't bake, i have no idea where he gets that so the boys do not know how to make cake or cookies...
A.
hell i was cooking family
hell i was cooking family meals at kaos' age. now granted, the kid is banned from the stove, but surely to got he can figure out how to slap peanut butter on bread.
this child also pitched a fit on sunday that "it's not toast unless it has butter on it".....
Well duh, of course it's not
Well duh, of course it's not :jawdrop:
Chef is also of the "men
Chef is also of the "men don't bake" thing. Although he admits his deceased father (the man whom he channels as a cook) actually baked bread.
Yep, same issues here, except
Yep, same issues here, except the SDs refuse to eat sandwiches...but SD9 has started to eat turkey burgers and hamburgers with no problem and will sort of eat a turkey or chicken sandwich lately. So lunches are an issue which I have NO part in unless it's part of MY plan.
SD9 sits at the breakfast bar and watches her dad make her breakfast. Toast. Sometimes an egg, or sausage (microwavable). I will not do it unless it's during the week.
Been talking with DP to cut. it. out. He says something like well she doesn't know how, or it's the only time I get to see her (WTF? NOT!)...
I have been consistently responding that she needs to learn NOW how to feed herself because at age 10, in less than 6 mos. Cover STOPS making her school lunches and weekday breakfasts. SD11 was cut off then too (for other reasons but same age).
Told DP - while you are making her breakfast TEACH her how to make her own favorite egg sandwich.
I got out of her that she knows how to make toast and things (does it at BMs) so I am having her help me make her weekday breakfasts now. She does the toast or whatever and I'll stick her sausage/bacon/whatever in the microwave. I'll have her doing all of it in a month.
(She doesn't eat cereal - she hates all dairy and non-dairy "milky" things so I don't push it, esp. since she eats a good breakfast)
Agh! So frustrating!
One time sd who was 11 at the
One time sd who was 11 at the time started crying when I told her to open a can of soup herself.
OMG. I would've fallen over
OMG. I would've fallen over laughing at her.
Gawd..what a moron! My SO
Gawd..what a moron! My SO tries to baby SS13 and it drives us both crazy (SS & I). For example, when I make myself a cuppa tea, I ask SO if he'd like one..SO will say yes, thanks..then he will ask SS if he'd like one. Blithering twit. If I wanted to make SS a cuppa tea, *I* will ask him!! SS is more than capable of making his own tea. SO does this every goddamn time...so now I don't offer to make him a cup.
Or when SS has a footy game. SO will get his ass out of bed early, go downstairs and make bacon and eggs for SS for brekky. I can't remember the last time he did this for me - so I no longer make breakfast for him.
SO also bitches about when I go out back for a ciggie and a beer - and I no longer give a flying fart whether he likes it or not.
When SS is over for his visit..SO is always in a great, energetic mood. "lets go do this..lets go do that..!" yet, when it's an "us only" weekend..I get mood swings, bitching, whining - i'm over that shit so now I go do my own thing.
Freedom is looking more and more inviting.