Oh boy, the apple just doesn't fall far from the tree. In this case the apple hit every rotten nasty branch on the way down. But I seriously had no idea that BM learned her manipulative bullshit from her mother.

About a week ago, BM's mom started texting DH asking if she can see SS. We have no problem with this. Obviously, we arrange for SS to see her dad regularly. So why wouldn't we do that same for her mom? Well... the difference between her dad and her mom is; her dad has a f*cking BRAIN and USES IT.

Dad: Has been to EVERY SINGLE BASKETBALL AND BASEBALL GAME not only since BM has been "out of the picture" but prior to that too. He has always been involved in SS's life, despite living an hour away, they know his schedule. School, practices (multiple teams) and even our custody schedule (what is SUPPOSED to be in place). And they only ask to take him on days that are typically BM's because they don't want to disrupt the rest of our lives because BM is a giant piece of crap and can't seem to get her shit together long enough to be even a part time mom. They RESPECT the fact that BM has caused this situation and they are grateful that not only DH is a good dad, but also that I have stepped up and made some personal sacrifices to take SS on full time. I have NO ALONE TIME anymore. I used to have 3 days a week to myself. I mean ALL to myself a lot of the times since DH travels. I have NONE anymore. NONE. DH travels and I am home with SS, while BM is out... doing whatever the hell she does. Her dad and stepmom have actually THANKED us.

BM's MOM on the other hand... Has not been a part of his life for MANY years. At least 4 years that I can recall. She hasn't been to a baseball game in as many years she has never been to a basketball game, and he played literally walking distance from her apartment. She has seen him maybe twice in the past year. There is just no excuse. She drives, she has a car. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her. She talks to BM. There is no excuse. She is just a lazy grandma.

Anyway, she wanted to take SS to breakfast tomorrow. We discussed it with him and he wants to see her so we agreed for her to pick him up at 9 and bring him home by noon. Then she starts pushing "making a regular schedule" for her to see him. Well, that's fine, sort of. As long as he doesn't have anything else planned. Making a regular schedule is only feasible if she is willing to spend some of that time taking him where he needs to be. She (just like BM) "never has gas money". And... if we already have plans, our plans WILL ALWAYS Trump a visit with her. ALWAYS. Sorry, that's what you get for being nonexistent in his life for so long. She agrees to breakfast plans for tomorrow and then wants to know if she can have him all day on the 16th, "sorry he isn't going to be around the 16th" how about the 17th? "He is gone the entire weekend. We have to be out of town, and made plans for him to stay elsewhere while we are gone". What about the 23rd? DH said "that is typically OUR weekend. That is when we spend time together as a family, please understand and respect that". She replies "Please have GRACE on me, I just want to see my grandson".
DH finally stepped up and texted this:

"Listen, we are all for helping SS maintain his relationships while his mother is out NOT being a mom. But you are going to have to be patient and work with OUR schedule. His other family (your ex-husband) only requests to spend time with him on days that would typically be BM's day and they understand that SS has a busy schedule. So in order to spend time with him and accommodate US they help in getting him to his practices and games. Some of which are OUT OF TOWN. You have to respect the fact that YOUR DAUGHTER put us in the ridiculous situation where we now have to coordinate with HER family to make sure SS see's them. I will not disrupt my wife, our other children and SS's life to accommodate the fact that you have decided you want to see him for the first time in MONTHS. So, don't be pushy, we will work with you as much as we can, but you HAVE to respect OUR schedule. We will not be manipulated and I will not keep SS from spending time with us and his sisters to accommodate your wants. He has been through enough, we are keeping things as normal as possible for him. As always, you are welcome to attend his baseball games to see him, no matter who's day it is, the schedule is posted online".

She didn't respond.

She is somethin' else.