You are here

This week...will cause me to drink more then normal- VENT

zerostepdrama's picture

I'm already done with this week...

On Sunday my sweet Lilly cat who I have had for 15 years and is 17 years old started acting funny. Lethargic, kind of out of it, etc. So yesterday morning she ate some food but threw it all back up and then some right before I leave for work. Thankfully it was on the mat right outside of her litter box. Not thankfully was that I still managed to drip it all over the carpet when I was carrying it outside to rinse off. Last night noticed she hadn't ate or drank much and she was still sleeping a lot and just out of it.

So I settle into bed with DH. Stressed and scared for Lilly. Just doze off and OSD calls DH at around 11.

What I got from the conversation of what I could hear is that BM is kicking her out when she moves in with her BF this weekend and that OSD and her kids have no place to go. That maybe she found a place but she needs all the money up front. I just kept hearing her say "and he wants all of the money." DH did say "You shouldn't even be in that situation in the first place." and then OSD said something about YSD because DH said "Don't put this on YSD". He says I'll talk to you tomorrow.

So DH is tight lipped about what is going on. His response "Oh her mother acting like she always does." Yes that is probably true but OSD shouldn't even be living with her mother at this point. But whatever. I just told him... whatever is going on better not affect our household at all.

He already knows that there is no way that OSD even with small children is coming to stay with us. I know that puts DH in a bad spot but it's a deal breaker. She can't even stay for one night.

So I try to go back to sleep. Worried about Lilly, worried about how this OSD bullshit is going to play out.

Wake up this morning and decide to take Lilly to vet. Spend 3 hours there and $538 later. UTI, minor kidney issue and hyper thyroid. Along with dehydration. Treating for UTI and thyroid issue for 3 months. If she isn't feeling better overall after 3 months on meds, then there isn't anything else that can be done that would make sense at her age. I'm glad I got all of her blood and urine checked and I feel better with a plan. She even got an IV for fluids to start feeling better. Poor baby laid in the vets office in the corner on the floor and just slept. So sad.

Still haven't heard officially if SIL is coming. But did see a text from last week to DH from MIL- See you on the 27th. Ummmm okay. Anyone (DH) going to say anything to me???DH said until they are here then he doesn't know if they will change their minds. He has no idea of a plan or what is going on if they do come. Who all is coming or where everyone is at.

We are a go for the yard sale this weekend. That is what I will be doing while DH is doing whatever. I made it clear that since I will be putting in a lot of work with the yard sale that I'm not playing hostess at all. It's on him.

Not asking for opinions on if I am right to feel this way or not- but I am bitter that in-laws are possibly coming and will be possibly staying the whole weekend just to attend a 1 hour ceremony graduation for 500+ kids. There is no party for YSD. My BS will be with his dad. So instead of being able to walk around the house naked and go out to eat and ride the motorcycle we will be stuck in the house with SIL, MIL, a toddler and newborn. Yes I'm being greedy and selfish in feeling this way. Literally every weekend since like December we have had something going on and this is the first weekend to just chill (yard sale aside) and be kid free and relax and enjoy the long weekend and BOOM here they are coming for graduation that I could care less about. (Again just expressing my feelings here, not asking if I am right to feel this way).

So a little stressful week. Not to mention I have to haul up a whole bedroom full of yard sale stuff from the downstairs bedroom (basement) and all that fun stuff.

Thanks for letting me vent Smile

Comments

zerostepdrama's picture

Well I am going to do it over 2 days. Start Wednesday and finish Thursday. DH will help of course but it's really a 2 person job. Once I have it upstairs then Friday morning DH and I will haul it outside because that will be the first day of the sale. I am hoping to get a couple of tables set up and some of the stuff outside Thursday night.

Once all of that stuff is out of the guest bedroom then it's open for the in-laws if they come but I made it clear to DH that the sheets need washed and that I'm not cleaning the guest bathroom either. I'll be doing too much work for the yard sale.

zerostepdrama's picture

Original plan is our house. I have been passive aggressive about some things hoping that they take a hint and get a hotel. That would make things 1 million times less stressful for me. DH will never tell them no if they ask to stay. They will most likely be here Friday and Saturday and probably not leave until Sunday afternoon. But worse case scenario is that they will stay until Monday. So we are kind of stuck at the house because it's not like there are a ton of options with a toddler and a newborn. I can go and do what I want... and may still go out with friends... but I would like to be with my DH. It's just not the best weekend for them to be here all weekend.

secret's picture

lol, have a little giggle when you Oh So Politely request OSD to keep her kids out of your hair while the garage sale is happening.... because nobody likes having little kids around when it's not the time or place! Wink

zerostepdrama's picture

OSD won't be around at all. She doesn't like me so I've made it clear to DH that she doesn't need to come over then. It's SIL and her kids.

zerostepdrama's picture

Well months back I kept seeing SIL post to YSD about "Can't wait until your graduation!" So me being me, I have to know the plan. So I reach out to SIL and open up the conversation and she's like Yeah we are going to come down and was planning on staying with you guys. Ummm kkkkk but you don't even think to mention it to us beforehand.

YSD graduating isn't any big celebration to me. (Besides for the end of CS). She's pregnant, has no where to live but with BM, no car, no job, no plans to attend college, no real future right now.

The ceremony starts at 9:30. Everyone would have to leave the house by AT LEAST 8:30am to make it in time and get seated. There is no way in hell that SIL is going to be getting herself ready and her 2 kids and MIL and DH and all of them out the door in time. Ceremony lasts about an hour. Then it's done. DH will attend the ceremony and then take YSD out to dinner later. But now with the in-laws here, they attend the ceremony that I can bet on that they will be late for and then I have to put up with them for the rest of the weekend. The kid free weekend that I could be spending naked with my husband. LOL.

zerostepdrama's picture

SIL is making a HUGE deal about it. Like okay... she's graduating with mediocre grades, pregnant, no job, no future plans...YAY let's ruin Zero's weekend over it. LOL!

zerostepdrama's picture

I know I am being petty and selfish.

If the in-laws weren't coming, DH would attend the ceremony and take YSD out to dinner later- end of story. We would go on with our weekend.

With in-laws coming I have to risk seeing the skids, hearing about the skids and BM, the whole elephant in the room thing, MIL who I could care less for, DH who acts like a whimp when his mom is around, a crying 1 month old, a 3 year old running around. All while dealing with a sick cat and a yard sale. Instead of closing down the yard sale each night and riding off on DH's motorcycle or meeting friends for drinks or laying in bed naked we will just be sitting around with narcissistic MIL and BM lover SIL.

DaizyDuke's picture

Not to mention I have to haul up a whole bedroom full of yard sale stuff from the downstairs bedroom (basement)

No. No. Your DH can haul all the crap upstairs, since this was HIS invite, NOT yours! Ugh. No freaking way!

zerostepdrama's picture

I'd be doing this yard sale no matter if they were coming or not because I have to get the bedroom clean for a big party we are having so people have a place to stay. Yes I know how that sounds... I'm all for other people staying just not the in-laws or skids. LOL. It's not so much the in-laws coming to visit, it's just that they are coming this weekend... makes it way more complicated.

FieryEscape's picture

I would be so pissy over not being officially told about the weekend house guests - it is YOUR home to !

I feel bad for your poor sick old kitty that needs to rest and not be stressed out by crying kids and uninvited adults.

notsurehowtodeal's picture

Can you use sick kitty as an excuse for them to stay in a hotel? Maybe it is some exotic virus that may be transferable to humans, you just don't know for sure yet?

Sorry your kitty is sick. One of mine is in the beginning stages of kidney failure and I think he might be suffering from a bit of dementia as well. It is so hard then they are sick.