Sorry Blog Hog.... SD hates our dog
My SD hates our 5 month old puppy. She complains that he is "annoying" and "stupid" (her favorite, most used word). She is with us for the summer and thankfully leaving in less than two weeks. He is not a bad dog. He is a low energy breed and doesn't make a sound in his crate. We put his crate in her room because most of the time it's just my husband and I and we really do not have much room. We thought she would enjoy having a dog around the house as she has three much larger dogs at her moms and she is always saying how much she loves dogs and wants to be a vet (as if she had the grades to ever do that). He has his moments downstairs where he will run around for a bit but usually is happy to nap nearby or play quietly with his toy.
The only thing we ever asked her to do is let the dog out ONE time while we are at work. She has no chores or responsibilities beyond that. If she ever agrees to do any sort of work (which is rare) she is aid for it, above minimum wage. Well she can no longer do her once daily duty of letting him out because her hip has been bothering her and the puppy (20lbs) is too heavy to bring downstairs.
I moved his crate out of her room today because she said "his (metal) crate smells" and that was the last straw. I clean his crate and wash his bed once a week. He only has a bed and toys in there and he's never had an accident or food in there. He also gets a bath about once every three weeks.
Idk what to do. Her presence is annoying to me and all she does is sit in her room watching reality TV all day and face timing/facebooking/instagraming her shallow bimbo friends all day, even when DH offers her activities to partake in. I told him she had better figure out what to do with her life after HS because I will not give one cent to support her lazy selfish butt after that. I understand that my husband is to blame for allowing her to get away with this but he has instructed her in what he thinks is best, given her lectures and advice, occasionally dolling out punishment, and she ignores him. I honestly think it's gotten to a point where he has given up.
I guess I am not really looking for advice just a vent.
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Meh just try to stick it out
Meh just try to stick it out for two weeks. She'll be gone soon enough. If you really want to get petty next time she calls the puppy stupid or annoying you can say something like "feeling is probably mutual" or "now SD you shouldn't talk about yourself like that". }:)
You can't force a pet on a
You can't force a pet on a kid. She has no ownership to this animal and yet it's taking up space in what is suppose to be her room. She's resentful and has no desire to care for the animal. Take it from her room. If your gonna make her care for it then she need to be compensated for it. This is your guys pet not hers.
I did move it out of her
I did move it out of her room. It's now in the hallway and we did not make her responsible for anything except letting the dog out, one time each day. She has no other responsibilities or chores, but you are right asking her to help out with that one thing each day is far too much for the poor girl.
No it's too much to as her to
No it's too much to as her to be responsible for your pet. My SO and I lived together together I take care of my cats 100%. I didn't get a dog because it's not fair to expect my room mate to take it out.
Your right to ask her to help with chores, clean her room, do dishes, and laundry.
But the dog is yours. It not hers in anyway. She leaves and the dog stays. Whose gonna let it out then?
Did you consult her about getting the dog or just do it then say. Well your responsible for taking it out. I'm guessing no.
Your dog, your choice, your responsibility. Not a child who only lives there part time.
I don't need help with the
I don't need help with the laundry or dishes or cleaning and if absolutely forced she will half ass it anyway. Frankly I don't need help with the dog either. I come home and let him out halfway through work when she's not here it just saves me about 15 minutes for both my husband and I to get home. I also have cats and take care of them 100% too. Trust me if she can't handle opening up the door once do you really think we can get her to do her own laundry? Lol
Omg she would go crazy lol.
Omg she would go crazy lol. She'd probably cram herself into her own suitcase and mail herself back to her moms.... hmmmm not a bad idea actually!
This worked for us in the
This worked for us in the past. "Oooops! I don't know what's going on? You can always play solitaire or something. Like, with a REAL deck of cards..."
Meh. Ignore. SD13 is the
Meh. Ignore.
SD13 is the same way, online or doing not much of anything in spite of offers and suggestions by DH (and only ONCE by me). I ignore since DH ignores any of my input.
SD13 adores my cats for the most part. But she doesn't like them "stepping or sitting" on her. Nor will she ever feed them or make sure they have water. Because "that's just gross."
So I never ask her to do a dang thing associated with them.
My FSD also hates my dog. I
My FSD also hates my dog. I think she is jealous that the dog spends more time with us than she does. She claims to be allergic to my dog and her Aunt's dog (but not BMs dog or any other dog, it seems to just be dogs affiliated with my FH) BM called my FH once ranting that he needed to get rid of MY dog. He said no.
If her dad likes the dog then it might very well be jealousy.
She's just being combative...
She's just being combative... from what I'm reading you thought that she would *like* the dog. I would pick a dog walk over cooking/cleaning/laundry any day. Whatever you asked her to do was going to be wrong.
My SS lived with us full time during high school (though he wasn't supposed to but BM threw him out) and I think he walked the dog twice in 2 1/2 years and then there was so much drama it was as if we asked him to run a marathon with her after 6 months of training rather than take her 10 minutes outside to go potty. Though, when he wanted to entertain girls who thought the dog was sweet it was "his dog". Blech. Whatever.
It's two more weeks. Set your alarm clock and big a big, visible, DEPARTURE date on the family calendar.
We know it's uncomfortable but she'll be gone soon enough. And then thank your lucky stars she's not with you all the time like my DH's little punk was.