Protect your children
I didn't protect dd the way I knew I should have because I was afraid of getting backlash over it. I KNEW ss was trouble but I kept pushing those thoughts to the back of my head because ss hadn't been caught doing anything. After dd's surgery she came home from the hospital and I caught ss in the bathroom touching her. I beat the hell out of him while he ran out of my house. I called the police and the social worker from the hospital. I refuse to let ss get away with this. Do not push your gut feelings away!!!
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Omg, how is your daughter
Omg, how is your daughter doing and how did your husband handle this? Is your daughter your husband's bio as well?
Dd is fine, she is 4 so she
Dd is fine, she is 4 so she doesn't really understand what is happening. Her dr did an exam and didn't see any damage so I don't think this has been happening long term. Dh moved out. He swears that I am over reacting and out to get his son. With dd's arm in a cast I had been wiping dd after she went to the bathroom and he says I walked in on ss wiping dd. What 14 year old boy wants to wipe a 4 yr old girl's privates after they use the bathroom? Yes, she is dhs.
Since she does need help with
Since she does need help with that hygiene function do you think that possibly he WAS just trying to be helpful? After your reaction, your DD may have thought she did something wrong too and may be afraid to say that she asked him for help.
I 100% think that parents should protect their children and I'm not trying to give an "abuser" a pass, but could the situation have been a misunderstanding?
It seems that since there is no medical evidence, he may very well have been just helping... this one time. I wonder if your misgivings about him could be coloring your interpretation of what you saw?
I am NOT saying that they should be allowed unsupervised time together.. both for your daughter's safety as well as the boy's (to prevent accusations).. but it seems that you may have jumped to a conclusion that hasn't been proven.
A, for all intensive
A, for all intensive purposes, unrelated 14 year old MALE wanting to wipe a 4 year old FEMALE'S bottom out of sheer helpfulness?
Not bloody likely.
He's not an unrelated 14 year
He's not an unrelated 14 year old MALE. He's her brother...
Well, I don't know about your
Well, I don't know about your situation, but in fact I can see a 14 year old wanting to be helpful to his little sister. Maybe your suspicions came from a gut feeling which you should listen to, but I don't see anything wrong in a young man helping his sister.
So you beat the h*ll out of
So you beat the h*ll out of your SS as he ran fleeing from the house and you.
This ought to make CPS be side eying you if they have not already. Do you ever supervise this child of yours? Trampoline on rocks!? Seriously, the kid is sitting on a pot with a cast and you know she needs help but off you go leaving her alone and lo and behold, you SS sneaks in (knowing you will back to wipe the kid any second) and attempts to molest the kid. *SMDH*
I was tending to my other
I was tending to my other child when this happened. I walked in to wipe her and ss was touching her.
Was he holding toilet paper
Was he holding toilet paper between his hand and her body?
Can you tell us what he was
Can you tell us what he was doing when you walked in? Because you're in the house. He knows you're right there. Would he try this knowing you are in close proximity?
Hmmm I'm really wondering if
Hmmm I'm really wondering if OP saw what was really happening or if her emotions and anger took over and she saw what she wanted to see.
My DS is 11 and DD is 3. He helps her in the bathroom sometimes when she needs help with her clothes coming up or down to potty. I've never thought anything was wrong with it. She's been potty trained for over a year. Before she was fully trained he helped her get on the potty and wipe sometimes.
Unless your child is delayed for some reason, four years old would be plenty old enough to know what's going on and tell you what happened. What about the other child? You've stated your kids are twins...
You should be worried about BM pressing charges for you assaulting her minor child. If that had happened to my son I would have been on your porch with the police that same day. You'll be seeing CPS again soon.
You are letting your paranoia and hatred for your SS ruin your life. For someone who claims they have to watch their DD like a hawk around SS you sure seem to let him be alone with her a lot... Your SS is a child that has been severely bullied, at school and at home.
Yes but your DS and DD are
Yes but your DS and DD are related. makes a biiiiig difference.
In this case, 4 yr old DD is technically SS's half brother.
I would not allow any unsupervised contact between SS and DD.
It doesn't make a biiiig
It doesn't make a biiiig difference. (eyeroll)
What the heck is the difference? DS and DD are HALF siblings. They share the same mom. This boy and the 4 year old are HALF siblings. They share the same dad.
SS is 9 and has helped her too. She has bathed several times with SD who is 7. They are her HALF siblings too. They have the same dad as DD.
My SD is just as related to
My SD is just as related to my children as I am. She's their sister. I really hate that half sibling crap. My kids refer to her as their sister, the same way they refer to each other.
I hate that crap, too. Asshat
I hate that crap, too.
Asshat and Money-Ka have three kids. I NEVER called them half siblings.
My kids have siblings, no differences between any of them.
It’s good your husband left.
It’s good your husband left. He needs to give his son all the help he can. He needs to protect son
Imagine all parties involved will be much happier now that you to have separated and hopefully move on to divorce.
It’s good your husband left.
It’s good your husband left. He needs to give his son all the help he can. He needs to protect son
Imagine all parties involved will be much happier now that you to have separated and hopefully move on to divorce
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Yep. I have always felt bad for this boy. This SM is one of those that you read about in the paper at some point. I honestly believe that she neglects her own DD so that she can blame SS for stupid crap and get him out of the house.
Glad the DH finally wised up and left. And I would bet lots of money that this boy did nothing to his sister.
I'm still wondering about the
I'm still wondering about the other child... She claimed she had twins, and she doesn't talk about the other child. I wouldn't be surprised if CPS takes her kids and places them with family or in foster care after this. It was just July they were investigated last...
Maybe... just maybe (!)...
Maybe... just maybe (!)... they were on a family boating trip when the twins were toddlers. One twin fell overboard and was presumed to be eaten by a shark! Dun dun dun... BUT... was actually kidnapped!! In a few years the twins will meet at boarding school and come back home together.
Maybe
Bahaha with the way her blogs
Bahaha with the way her blogs go I wouldn't doubt it.
I starting reading the OP's
I starting reading the OP's other blogs and noticed that in previous blogs she said SS was 15....but now SS is 14?! He went down in age?!? I'm confused. At least it is entertaining to read I suppose.
I've thought it was made up.
I've thought it was made up. But ehh, It keeps me entertained while I'm bored at work
So is the SS a violent abuser
So is the SS a violent abuser or a budding pedophile? I just feel like if he was secretly lusting for his own baby sister, he wouldn't have been beating on her for the past few months. I don't know about these things. Could he be violently jealous and sexually predatory to the same person?
Could it be he was trying to prove he's a loving brother by attending her needs after she was left sitting on the toilet for a while? Perhaps he also blames himself for her broken arm and wanted to alleviate any further discomfort?
My own BS is clumsy and outrageously defiant to most people but is a HUGE softy when it comes to my DD. He absolutely hates it when she's unhappy or crying and will do anything in the world for her. Hes literally the person I trust most to babysit her.