Best and worst weekend
My daughter-in-law came for the weekend with the grandkids. She got her very early Fri. morning and that evening we took them to the Mall to trickortreat. After that we went to my church that was having a party for the kids, then we went around the neighborhood. H went with us and we were all having a great time. Sd was mad because he told her she had to stay home and hand out candy. I thought it was the breakthrough we've been needing. Anyway we get home about 9:oo, the kids were exhausted and so were we. We open the door and turn on the lights in the living room and OMG!!!! There was sd and her girlfriend? having sex on my couch. :jawdrop: Dil and I were trying to cover the kids faces and H was exploding. I was afraid he was going to have another heart attack. Would you believe she sat there buck naked and said it was my fault because she didn't get to go out. We got the kids into another room and I run back in there in time to hear H tell her to get out. This may having been the last straw for him. He gave her $100.00 and told her to go stay with her friend and not come back until she can behave. Ladies I was stunned. I never dreamed he would ever do something like that. He still won't talk about it or speak to her. I'm stumped. Do I let him wait until our next therapy session or should I push him to talk to me now.
OMG!!!!
your H might need some space on this one....JMO. I don't know what els to say.....wow."~waiting on the world to change~"
OMG!!!!
your H might need some space on this one....JMO. I don't know what els to say.....wow."~waiting on the world to change~"
Depends on your hubby & if
Depends on your hubby & if he already knew about his daughter. If he's not great about talking about his feelings anyway, then maybe ask him if he wants to talk & if not give him a little time. That would be quite the shocker.
I've suspected for a couple
I've suspected for a couple of years that she was bi but he wouldn't hear it. No, he won't admit he even has feelings. I'm not sure if he's mad because she likes girls or because we walked in on it. That's what makes me mad. If she was going to have sex with her friend then she should have done it in her own room not in my living room. I'm going shopping for a new couch tomorrow. I realize that makes me sound shallow and selfish but YUCK. I don't think I can ever sit on that couch again.
How old is this girl? He's
How old is this girl? He's probably upset at three things...no parent wants to think of their child doing anything sexually, and at walking in on it, and that it was with a girl. And I would DEFINITELY buy a new couch! Gross! Its not like a bed that has sheets you can change.
Whoa Nelly
Now that is just too much. Did you know she had a girlfriend? And, why can't she use the bedroom like a civilized person, that lives with other people? I hope the kids didn't see anything, they will be traumatized for sure!! I am glad he kicked her out and hope it sticks.
My God! these people must drive you crazy!!
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
You go get the new couch, girlfriend!
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
I'd probably be santizing the whole house. And if SD is mature enough to be a sexually active bi-well, all I can say is she needs to be getting her own place-on her bedroom in your home-but her own home.
Hopefully, between therapy and the events now taking place, your H will finally see the light. Hopefully.
YOUR fault- that's a good one
Talk about deflection! That's classic.
Give your DH some space on thins one, hon. He's gonna need it on a whole bunch of levels. That's a lot to take in for any father.
I agree with Mustang on this one- I think she definitely had it all planned so all of you could walk in and "discover" her.
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
wow
that's gotta be tough for DH!