Oh no she didn't........ Opinions please!!!
So the baby mama, ie. BM, decided to make a comment that has really gotten under my skin like something bad!!! Back when my SS was born, his mother chose to not let his father have anything to do with his name, and of course didn't give him his last name. Well after 3 years of fighting, they are finally having it changed this month. Of course she would just change the last name to his dads, she made him have it hyphened with her last name. So this name change is coming up here in a week, and she actually had the nerve to say that she is thinking of having her last name changed to have it hyphened the same as HER son's! She is so insecure and thinks I am trying to take over her mommy roll. I know where I stand in his life, but she just doesn't believe it. But that's besides the point. Does anyone know if there is anything we can do legally about that? Can she just give herself whatever name she wants? OMG, I am so furious, you have no idea!!!
yes she can call herself anything she wants
and can legally change her name to anything she wants.
( not a typo)
Just be glad the boy now has a last name. I feel your aggitation but the more you react to it, the more likely she is going to fight you and do something stupid.
It cost about 50 to 100 dollars to legally change your name. Many real estate agents and salespeople do this to have a more snazzy name and people do it all the time for all kinds of reasons with their jobs.
Don't sweat the small stuff, don't let her get under your skin,
be glad the boy now has a last name and the fathers name is the "last last" name
If you are speaking to her directly, you would have much more fun to chill out and go along with her, even suggest names...
makes no sense to let her get to you, instead jump right on board, let her see how stupid she sounds by suggesting porn star
haha
and cartoon character names
or whatever you find funny in names. The point is to not let her get to you, make fun of her in a laid back kinda way and let her know how stupid she sounds by going along with her
Anyone
Anyone can change his/her name to anything. There's nothing anyone else can do about it.
What would be funny, is if YOU changed your name to the same thing. Whatever the stepson's name is. (Except you'd have to share her name, but...) If you want to dig it in a little, just SAY you're going to do it, and let her find out about it. }:)
BB
- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)
HA HA HA
That was a good one!!
Unfortunately yeah
She can change her name to whatever she wants - hopefully she won't though! At least your SS will have his dad's name. My FH's ex never gave their daughter his last name but she sure wants to suck him dry for every penny he has...
haha
Suggest this to her....
YOU: what do you mean hypenated?
Like LUNA-TIC ?
hahaha
Look At It This Way
At least she cares about her image where the child is concerned. My SD's BM has 4 children and three of them have different last names. She recently had ANOTHER baby and my SD's were so confused by all of these children with different last names that they actually told their teachers at school that "Mommy doesnt know what kinda last name she is going to have."
I understand where you are coming from and I would be upset also but sometimes you have to wonder what is worse
Thanks guys!
I have not said a word to her about the name change thing. I want her to think I could care less what she says or does. We just paid for our little ones name change, and it's $300 here. She is a welfare mom, so she really can't afford to have it done. However, she loves to spend money on herself whenever she has it, she's enormously childish as you see, and she loves trying to piss me off, so I wouldn't put it past her to do so. I am the SM that loves to kill her with kindness. I pretend I know nothing, ignore any comments, and smile like I am her best friend! Plus, I don't have time to deal with petty drama, nor do I care to waste my time. I am a better person than that, so I will leave the childish games to her. Thanks for all the reply's everyone, it's very much appreciated! I love the reply about us changing our name, great idea! But honestly, her last name is so tainted and I feel so bad for my SS to even have to have it in his name at all! LOL
good !
Your really better off if you can be that way and not give into her trying to rattle you up, which may be all she's doing.
Some bio moms are not welfare cases and talk crazy stuff like that and have the means and money to put those things of insanity into action, so you are blessed all she basically is doing is flapping her jaws.