I married my husband 6 months ago. we are both "supposed" to be Christians & active in ministry. However, SD is allowed to spend days at a time, spending the nite, fornicating w/19yrold boyfriend, & she only goes to school for 20 minutes a week at some stupid independant study/charter school. meanwhile. She's 17 as of Sunday & still in the 9th grade. i'm trying to raise my 2 daughters up in the Lord, they have curfews, & both are full time students.boyfriends are discouraged, my husband tells my daughters what to do all the time, mop the floors, chores, etc. & when his daughter is home, never asks her to do a thing.what chores she does have, she pawns off on my 11 year old. when she is at our home, she lays around all day in bed, on the computer, w/tv on till all hours of the morning, creeping up & down the stairs all night. she has deliberately lied to me on several occasions, she has stolen from my children, & every time never has to face any consequences for her actions because DH is too weak & spineless to discipline her. he gives in to her every wish & whim, w/out any regard to our marriage. I'm really starting to hate my DH. Becuz of his LACK of parenting, i have begun to over-compensate where my children r concerned. I am spending more time w/ them, helping them w/their studies, taking them to church, choir rehearsals, prayer, counseling & have explained to them that they are different from SD. I have tried to no avail to speak to my husband in a kind way about the lack of discipline & double standard in our home. I have done my best as a Christian to handle the situation in a Christ-like manner, but this past weekend we all went to mammoth, hubby finally had the guts to force SD to spend time w/family & go to mammoth. it was the vacation from hell! My 2 daughters voted SD off the mountain. they no longer want to engage w/her. They r not mean or rude to her, but have completely disengaged w/her & don't feel it's their responsibility to pay attention to her.they alienated her in mammoth. DH wanted me to scold them, I refused & finally told him to his face that SD was a spoiled brat who couldn't boil water or burn toast! we've been fighting for a week. my house is divided. I decided to no longer make my oldest daughter take the bus to college, but now, am allowing her to use my car. i took a day off last week to console & comfort my children, took them to grandma's, we all went out to lunch, took them shopping & bought them things they needed for school. DH buys SD everythign she wants w/out her ever having to earn it. Meanwhile, my children have been taught that they are rewarded for the things they do, not the things they DON'T do. I'm so angry. Up until last weekend, i was the one who bought all of the little extras during the week & made sure ALL the girls had the necessities, bras, underwear, etc. DH is really cheap. now i feel disrespected & taken forgranted. So i pulled the plug on EVERYTHING.Bought my girls their own little fridge & only foods that I know they like & nothing SD likes because she won't eat it anyway unless I prepare it for her & hand it to her in bed. Also started to cook meals that I know my children like, stuffed bell-pepers, fried chicken, etc. cuz DH & SD don't like anything but crappy hamburger helper. i am really hating my husband right now & totally want to kick the crap out of him! But... i'm trying to keep my cool & save money in case i have to kick him & his brat out of the house. Of course DSD has been at her boyfriends' house since last Thursday & hasn't had to deal w/any of the tension in my house. Now DH is not speaking to my kids at all, which i don't care because he's just shown me what an infant in diapers he truly is. I have friends who r former gang members & even THEY know not to allow their daughters to engage in this kind of behavior. One of them told me my husband might as well go register his daughter at Babies R Us because that's what's going to end up happening.