Yes. My SS16 was just convicted of misdemeanor drug charges (using/selling at school) - pleaded down from a felony. Basically he lied, BM lied to attorney, who in turn passed the lies (what he thought to be the truth) along to the judge.
He lies, steals, manipulates and really has no regard for anyone but himself and what he wants. Because of the disillusions he's been raised with, he has no concept of every action causing a reaction. Of course, it doesn't help that with every action he gets rewarded or coddled. The punishments he receives are usually mild compared to the offense.
I try to disengage the best I can, but inevitably - he says or does something EOW that just brings it all back. And then during the times we don't have him, my DH or MIL are always bringing everything up about him - you know, because the world does revolve around him. Ask him:)
I find that even when he isn't around - he's just there. It's hard for your mind to be free of that.
Try to stop thinking about it, its not your problem. It probably bugs you so damn much because no one is doing anything about it (Im assuming). When I start to think about the crap SS does, I go read, play wii, play with the dog, or anything I enjoy to take my mind off of whatever it is that is bugging me about him.
"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus
On The Brink, that would be hard for almost anyone to disengage from because its quite a serious issue. its one thing if its a neighbor's kid but quite different when its happening in your home. Maybe get involved in a humanitarian activity like a rotary club in your area--Helping people who WANT to be helped always make you feel better. And it can be as time consuming as you like
My SS's lying is habitual now. This progressed to getting caught cheating in school. I'm sure stealing is soon to follow. Punishments and discipline mean nothing to him. It's truly frightening. Someone who can look you right in the face and lie to you, or be completely emotionless when disciplined reminds me of sociopathic behavior. You've already disengaged. Make sure you are also keeping your valuables close to you, or hidden away. Disengaging emotionally will help you tremendously, but it's a shame when you can't be comfortable in your own home.
"There comes a time when you have to surrender the idea of what your children could be to the reality of who they are."
Yes. My SS16 was just
Yes. My SS16 was just convicted of misdemeanor drug charges (using/selling at school) - pleaded down from a felony. Basically he lied, BM lied to attorney, who in turn passed the lies (what he thought to be the truth) along to the judge.
He lies, steals, manipulates and really has no regard for anyone but himself and what he wants. Because of the disillusions he's been raised with, he has no concept of every action causing a reaction. Of course, it doesn't help that with every action he gets rewarded or coddled. The punishments he receives are usually mild compared to the offense.
I try to disengage the best I can, but inevitably - he says or does something EOW that just brings it all back. And then during the times we don't have him, my DH or MIL are always bringing everything up about him - you know, because the world does revolve around him. Ask him:)
I find that even when he isn't around - he's just there. It's hard for your mind to be free of that.
Try to stop thinking about
Try to stop thinking about it, its not your problem. It probably bugs you so damn much because no one is doing anything about it (Im assuming). When I start to think about the crap SS does, I go read, play wii, play with the dog, or anything I enjoy to take my mind off of whatever it is that is bugging me about him.
"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus
On The Brink, that would be
On The Brink, that would be hard for almost anyone to disengage from because its quite a serious issue. its one thing if its a neighbor's kid but quite different when its happening in your home. Maybe get involved in a humanitarian activity like a rotary club in your area--Helping people who WANT to be helped always make you feel better. And it can be as time consuming as you like
My SS's lying is habitual
My SS's lying is habitual now. This progressed to getting caught cheating in school. I'm sure stealing is soon to follow. Punishments and discipline mean nothing to him. It's truly frightening. Someone who can look you right in the face and lie to you, or be completely emotionless when disciplined reminds me of sociopathic behavior. You've already disengaged. Make sure you are also keeping your valuables close to you, or hidden away. Disengaging emotionally will help you tremendously, but it's a shame when you can't be comfortable in your own home.
"There comes a time when you have to surrender the idea of what your children could be to the reality of who they are."
"My SS's lying is habitual"
"My SS's lying is habitual" - I have a saying in my house "How do you know when SS is lying? His mouth is moving."
I really appreciate your quote "There comes a time when you have to surrender . . . " So very true, and it's a hard pill to swallow.