Okay, so a little background. My fiance and I have been together for 3 years. We are getting married on July 5th of this year. We moved in together last September and it has been a big adjustment for me. I have two bs's. One is 18 the other 14. I have raised them by myself their entire lives. He has 2 bd's, one is 15 the other 12. I have known both of them most of their lives. He has been divorced from their bm for almost 2 years. They had a really long drawn out divorce that lasted 28 months. The divorce papers state 50/50 custody with each parent getting the children on Friday to Friday. I have my sons 100 percent of the time, father is not in the picture at all. My boys go and do things on the weekends and always have so me having alone time was never an issue and my DF has never had to compete if that is the correct way to describe it. For the first year we were together he only had his girls every weekend and a day during the week, the rest of the time he lived at my home. We had some privacy and some alone time then. Now his girls are with us all but 2 days of each month and it is always in the middle of the week when we are both too exhausted to enjoy each others company. We work opposite schedules so time together is very limited. His girls get to see him on average about 6 hours per day while I on the other hand get 30 minutes per day except on Sundays when we are both off. I don't want to seem selfish but aren't parenting plans put in place for a reason? We pay her child support and she never has her kids or pays for anything they need. My DF says that she is not fit to be a mom so he doesn't mind having the kids all the time but my issue is that he is a truck driver and was gone for a lot of his kids lives and the bm was fine to have them all that time with no danger to them so why is now any different. Then on Sundays when we could spend any quality time together, his girls want to take off with him alone when he is off all day on Saturdays with them. I am really starting to resent them and I don't want to. They are constantly telling their BM things that don't really happen at our home. For instance, sex for us is very limited. If we ever have the time or energy is very rare. They have told their BM that they had to go outside because they hear noises coming from our room. That is very disrespectful and also completely untrue. When we do get a chance to spend any time together in our room we are usually interrupted every couple of minutes with mundane requests from them. I am not a young lady, I am 40 and so is he but that doesn't mean that we don't wish to be intimate and show our affections when the children are not present. My feeling is that they are old enough to know that we need some privacy and alone time too. How can I approach this with the DF and not sound like I am telling him to ship off his kids. I don't mind them being there I would just like to have some alone time with him and not have to worry about who might be listening. Any help would be appreciated.