Is it bad that every time we drop off the skids @ BM's house after we've had them that it's, like, my favorite time of the week because it's the longest possible time before having them again?

We've just had them all Memorial Day weekend, and they've pretty much been their usual annoying selves from Thursday night until now. I work every day of the week, so when I get the very unusual full day off, I like to spend it in peace and quiet doing whatever child-free activities are possible, and not only have they ruined my Memorial Day with their presence, but they're also going to ruin Labor Day weekend AND Halloween as well. I've been with DH for 6 years, and have known the SS's (now almost 11 and almost 9) since they were 2 and 4...and they still act like they're 2 and 4. Everyone in DH's family kept saying, "They'll grow out of it, they'll grow out of it." When?!? SS11 is SUPER clingy and basically likes to be babied all the time. It's easy for a lot of people to baby the crap out of both of them because they're really small for their ages. It gets really annoying. Plus he has the need to say everything he's thinking out loud. Even DH is sometimes irritated by it. He follows adults around like a lost dog, especially DH, and when a grown-up isn't paying attention to him, he'll literally run into walls and fall down on purpose (which of course, he insists were accidental, then when I tell him to go downstairs if he's going to do that, he says, "I'll stop.") SS9 is OBSESSED with video games, computer, and TV. He literally doesn't want to do anything else during the day, and when we force him to turn off the technology, he gets all p.o.'d. He also expects people to wait on him hand and foot. Besides that, he literally has no impulse control WHATSOEVER. He basically just does whatever his impulses tell him to do at the time, whether it's skwawking, acting inappropriate in public (dancing in the middle of the store, standing on the chair at dinner, etc.), and God help us if he gets ahold of any of DH's tools. And he is LOUD! Plus neither of them listen, and SS11 is pre-pubescent, so he's now got a funky little attitude problem as well (which I also don't put up with).

We've literally been working on the exact same issues with them since DH and I started dating, and we had a pretty big fight about it yesterday. I told him I was at the end of my rope and that it really shouldn't take 6 years for them to learn what things are okay and what aren't, and that I could really only take so much. Basically I said I was pretty much to the point where I just wanted to leave because I can't be around them. They're both in behavioral therapy for their ADHD, and the therapist basically just told DH and BM the exact same things I've been saying for the last 6 years, but now the excuse is that "with ADHD, these things take a long time to take hold." BM thinks that because I'm not a mom, I don't know anything (which, btw, I have a Master's Degree in special ed, AND about a decade's worth of experience, AND I do Applied Behavioral Analysis on the weekend). But now that it's coming from the therapist who she's paying, it's all correct. It's like having free access to a car mechanic, but going to the shop anyway to pay someone else to fix the car when you could've gotten it done for free. I'm sure BM hasn't been doing ANYTHING the therapist has been telling her to do at home because it's actual "work" and "effort," so I'm sure therapy won't work. I can't wait until they're 18.

Sorry, just had to vent, thanks for listening all.