Afraid of ss
I posted before about my ss.
I wont go into everything but I am terrified.
I went to hang laundry on the line and saw an axe on the back porch I didnt think much of it I really just thought ss left it there (he was playing around the cellar last night). So I took it and put it on the other side of the porch till hubby got home and asked him where I should put it.
Later on our puppy went outside and just wouldnt come back in so I went downstairs (or porch is 2 levels and leads into our cellar). The cellar door was open so I went in and I saw our can opener was down there ... I thought wtf? Well then I saw another axe blades very sharp. And a knife. Our can opener has also a knife sharpener on it. I grabbed the can opener a bit disturb, and check on the axe that was by the door originally and sure enough that was pretty sharp too.
I also notice that our clorine tablet box was open and some are missing. so now am really scared ... I mean I dont think he would try anything ... but then again who knows...
My husband is out of town for the day and I cant reach him (he went on a field trip with our daughter to a state park and he must have no signal or little of it and I dont really want to say on the phone "Am scared I think you're son might try to kill me ..." )
He took the car so I cant go out so I am really nervous right now.
I mean before this I was a bit I dont know ... like this odd feeling you have, like I should lock the door behind me kind of feeling you know which one? But now I dont know.
My husband isnt due back for at least 5 more hours. So now I am just a nervous wreck.
I dont think he would do anything at least I pray he wouldnt. Am keeping the phone by me with 911 on quick dial just in case.
Am I being silly? I mean I dont know am kinda frighten right now
Actually I think I will go to
Actually I think I will go to my sister in laws. We live in the middle of no where, neighbors are about 5 miles down the road. My sister in law is about 10 miles away but I will walk it just to get out, I doubt he will do anything but I will go stir crazy sitting here
Is sitting by with 911 on
Is sitting by with 911 on stand-by for 5 hours your only option? Do you have a friend or family member you can call to hang out with just to
How old is your SS? His actions may be the result of a curious boy doing experiments, but if it spooks you out to that point, I would encourage you not to be alone all day with him. I also wouldn't feel comfortable with letting him out of my sight.
How old is your SS? I don't
How old is your SS? I don't see any previous blogs you've posted to know about your situation.
I think I saw a post from her
I think I saw a post from her recently that said he's 17. I looked after I responded asking the same question.
Well my ss is 17 and he got
Well my ss is 17 and he got grounded by his dad.
He wont talk to me, wont even look at me, and hasnt for about 2 weeks, its been hard living with him.
He ignores anything I say and basically if we are in the same room he will run off to another room till I leave that room to go finish what he was doing.
I have no clue at all why he is mad. He wont tell me or his father. We are assuming its cause I yelled at him ... how insane is that?
His BM let him drive one night home, he is not suppose to drive, he has no permit. So when he came in I yelled at him! Like hell I will have a driver with no license on the road and what if he killed someone?! I drive my little kids around I dont want drivers like that around and I dont expect it from him.
He's never liked me thought and we always had tension but I guess me yelling at him when his BM said it was ok was to much for him? I dont know.
Now he wont talk to me, goes through my stuff, steals my things just cause he can (I was previously married and had important papers in one of my drawers he took them and wrote all over them "bitch") Thats just one example.
He was txting his father with stuff about me calling me names.
I mean I doubt he is homicidal but with how angry he has been I am just a bit worried after finding all those things its just odd
I think you are right to be
I think you are right to be concerned. If it feels bad and you have found concrete evidence that has no other explaination. Trust your gut. I think a walk to your sil's is a good option.
Wow. How long have you &
Wow. How long have you & your husband been together? If he's been so angry for so long, he would probably benefit from some kind of counseling. If he acts out in anger, possibly some anger management.
Of course, the counseling
Of course, the counseling doesn't help the situation you're in today, but just something that could help for the future.
We been together 10 years
We been together 10 years married 8.
I never connected much with ss. I came into his life when he was 8, I just figured at the time it was his "you're a girl and am a boy and you dont get me" phase. After all he used to love playing in the mud and find creepy crawlys all day long.
Before we were ok I mean we werent best friends and he really wouldnt come to me for things but he accepted me, and I dont know it was enough for me, I certainly did not want him to do anything he didnt want to do. He was never disrespectful or anything and somewhat loving at times. I guess he just has mommy issues, his BM never pays much attention to any of the her kids. She see's them a few times a year to buy them stuff, they are happy they got new stuff we would never buy them (like a $500 bike but she cant pay child support)
but he is older now and I been having problems with my SD, she and I were close but I dont know what happen she also started having issues and we asked her to move out (she was 19 at the time). Now she parties most of the time, and really really hates me. She has told me many times since she left she just wants to beat me up and so on. I cut her out of my life till she can grow up.
But the problem is ss went to see his mom when that driving incident happen and my sd was also there in the car, so I think they all had a grand old time saying things about me and it got him all in a mood and when he got back I yelled at him and that just sealed the deal so the speak.
I was thinking on that counseling bit, but he is 17 we cant really make him go, but I was going to mention to my husband I was just waiting for a good time lol but I might do it sooner then later now
Yeah, at 17 you can't throw
Yeah, at 17 you can't throw him over your shoulder & carry him into the counselor's office. LOL! Does he have a pretty good relationship with his dad? If he does, maybe your husband could talk to him about it & convince him to at least try it. If nothing else, your husband needs to discuss his behavior & attitude with him & let him know what will be tolerated in your home & what will not. Him writing "Bitch" all over your papers is incredibly disrespectful & unacceptable. Does your husband address these things with him?
He does, I tried but he wont
He does, I tried but he wont even respond to me
So my husband did and that is why he is grounded, even though I told him 17 is just to old for this sort of punishment it will just make him more angry.
He had a good relationship but not as much now ss see's it as my husband being wiped to his wife and does whatever she says.
But he will definitely be talking to him tonight if not I will have to tell him he has to leave because I cant live afraid of "what if ... "
well my husband called, he
well my husband called, he said it doesnt sound like something he would do in fact he said he txt him earlier and it sounded as if he was gonna apologize to me (but I think he just wants me to let him go outside which I will without an apology lol just go!), but I will stay put for now I feel a bit better talking to my husband but he said if I get worried again to call my sister in law and to go over there
So I guess thanks gals for letting me vent I feel a bit foolish but those things really scared me seeing them, I wont drop it though I will go right now and hide them and give them to my husband when he gets home
Can you call his mother and
Can you call his mother and ask her to come get him?