parents not coming to wedding
Well, if you have been folling my posts, we just got engaged and my parents don't like my fiance. (long story) But, we were getting a list of whom we would like to invite. When my fiance asked me about my parents, I told her that I would invite them. So, I called my parents house and my dad answered and said he would have to let me know ! I was thrown by that. Not even (that is great news or congrads)nothing. Then I called yesturday and asked my mom. She replied, well I have to ask your father. Again, not a congrads or that is great news son. I asked my mom how was she and my dad going to make things right with my fiance. She said she would let me know. It has been two days and no reply. So, now, I am putting them down as a no. I will feel so alone up there without any of my parents there and they are very much alive.Should I feel this way ? What if people ask, where are your parents ?
I would let it go. My DH and
I would let it go. My DH and I got married in Costa Rica. None of my family came. His brother and sister came for the entire week. We had the kids, it was a nice wedding. Was I hurt, yes. But, I got over it and decided to just enjoy the day. SS made that a little hard, but overall it worked out. If you love her and the kids, do what makes you happy. My family has slowly accepted my husband. His divorce and being Jewish bothered my mom. Dad just refused to leave the country. They are over it now. Yours will accept it eventually as well. If people ask, don't lie, just say that they decided not to attend and leave it at that.
I have to learn to let it go.
I have to learn to let it go. They will introduce her parents and mine will be no where in site. Then there is the mother and son dance. Who do I dance with ? They are idiots.
I agree with you . Why invite
I agree with you . Why invite people that are not happy for us? They will never be happy. So, why am I thinking of that now ? I need to invite people that will smile and enjoy and be genuine.
Don't be concerned with how
Don't be concerned with how your parents will make things right with your fiance. That's for them to figure out. If that's how you them with the subject, it doesn't surprise me that they don't want to come. Why the need to take it there? There attendance at your wedding is an issue separate from how they get along with your fiance. If people ask where they are you simply tell them they were unable to make it. There's no need to explain details, & anyone who pushes for details deserves to hear, "It's none of your business".
I agree. I would find it
I agree. I would find it hard to turn my own child down if they said to me "mom, it would mean a lot to me to have you there. Please come for ME."
let the other stuff play out in it's own way and own time.
And try to enjoy your wedding ! the less drama created the better.
As of today we are sending
As of today we are sending out the save the date cards for the wedding. I know they will be getting a phone call from my relatives about the upcoming wedding. How embarrased will they be when they tell my relatives that they are not going. I don't get that from her family. Planning a wedding is suppose to be fun not all drama filled.
Yes, I would still invite
Yes, I would still invite them anyway. Maybe paying for a trip is the issue. If they are not supportive, it is best they stay away imo. Just leave it open and maybe they will surprise you.
But the truth is, it doesn't matter - as long as you and your honey are there, it will be romantic and everything it should be, regardless.