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25 y/o step daughter wants to sleep with her mother

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Submitted by Ontheouts on Tue, 10/05/2010 - 12:08am

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My six year relationship icludes 2 yrs of marriage...Soon after I married my wife her 25 y/o daughter started creating division between my wife and I. My SD wants to be able to sleep in bed with her mother. I am being asked to sleep on the couch whenever makes this request. My wife won't set her straight and tell he NO ! Is this normal?

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Submitted by Ontheouts on Tue, 10/05/2010 - 12:18am

Thanks ..for awhile I thought I was not being understanding. Tried to put my foot down and ended up on the outs.

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Submitted by Ontheouts on Tue, 10/05/2010 - 12:33am

More info...No...this is for reral...yes I have two balls...do you?...No I never posted this message on any other site..The SD is a lesbian...the house belongs to my wife...and this is where her daughter grew up...there are two bedrooms...needless to say I have expressed my disgust about the situation and ended up getting into an argument with my wife. Now I am on the outs...daughter plays on mothers guilt.

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Submitted by mommylove on Wed, 10/06/2010 - 9:15am

"The SD is a lesbian"

Uh, what was the purpose of including this little tidbit of info - to make the situation sound even MORE ridiculous? Wow.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Tue, 10/05/2010 - 12:31am

I have to admit my dh would never let this happen with any of the kids. Although my dd at 16 had a few nightmares for a few nights in a row and came running to our room and he let her sleep with us. Notice I said US! plus she was going through a hard time with her bio dad writing her after no contact for 15 years. This kid has never ever wanted to sleep with me or us so it was a huge deal when she did. Other than that no that should not happen.

If this is a joke or what ever I guess they have nothing better to do huh? Just shows they have no life. LOL

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Submitted by Ontheouts on Tue, 10/05/2010 - 12:38am

My wife lost her son 4 yrs ago...she is easily manipulated by her daughter...since her son's death...she is worried her daughter will carry out her threats to never talk to her..

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Submitted by NewBeginning on Tue, 10/05/2010 - 8:44pm

Wow..if my DH allowed his grown sons to try to sleep in our bed, his hind end would be on the couch. I'll be damned if I'm sleeping somewhere else so a grown adult can take over my bed. That is absolutely disgusting.

What's wrong with this woman to allow this shit??

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Submitted by Shannon61 on Tue, 10/05/2010 - 9:30pm

The only way this would be normal would be if your wife were sick as hell on her deathbed or in the hospital. Your SD is a manipulator and your wife is falling for it. Her goal is likely that she's tring to push you out so she can have mommy all to herself . .which is ridiculous and pathetic.

Next time stand your ground and tell SD to get in her own bed. If you don't they will continue to treat you like an outsider instead of the husband and the man of the house. Put your foot down once and for all and end this foolishness or it will continue. Demand the respect as a husband and SD that you deserve.

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Submitted by jojo68 on Wed, 10/06/2010 - 9:43am

All I have to say..is "oh HELL no" Forgive me for being blunt but if your wife allows her 25 yr daughter to sleep with her and you have to go to the couch, I think I would rethink my relationship..Good luck!

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Submitted by stired_crazy on Tue, 11/29/2011 - 10:09am

First off this is NOT of the norm, I would be telling SD to kick rocks to the couch. Besides you and your spouses bedroom is your OWN personal space, heck when we was growing up we was not even aloud in our parents bedroom ( its a respect issue). You need to take a stand and tell wifey to take off the rose colored glasses, But if you don't take your stand then your also enabaling this behavior rather you realize it or not.I know you have to pck and choose your battles..but this would be one I would chooseing!

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Submitted by Not-the-mom on Fri, 12/02/2011 - 9:00am

I have a question....is your wife and her daughter from a part of the world where this is considered "normal"?

I ask because I know of a couple of families (we live in a university town and have contact with a lot of forgein students) where it is normal for the father to sleep in one bed with the boys, and the mother sleep in the other bed with the girls. Also, the second family comes from country where there are no beds, everyone sleeps on the floor in one big group.

If she isn't from a culture where this is considered "normal" I would say you need to definitely stand up to your wife and not allow this to happen. If they are from a culture where this is common, I would still work it out where this is not happening, but you might need to use a different tactic.

Good luck.