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Anyone got drama with your own children?

StepmomB19's picture

I sure do...I have a 20 year old bio-son...he just got out of jail for criminal damage...and I feel for him because he can't stay at my house due to his anger issues but I wish there was more I could do for him..

DH always compares my son and his issues to SS from hell, but I tell him my son doesn't live here, so why are you talking shit? he's never had to deal with my son...

I wish I didn't feel so guilty..I know this is what's best for him because he has taken me, and the family for granted, but he's my son..any advise????

on the fence's picture

I did for a while with my oldest getting through school. He is such a smart kid and he's really good, but when he got cross ways of two particular tyrants in our public school district, he just would not back down and he was all the time in trouble and I was fighting with them. And right after his darling, wonderful father passed away he did a very bad thing and got caught with something that, shall we say he shouldn't have had. It was such a tough time for us all.

I thought I never would get that kid through school.

Finally did, though. He graduated in June. It all passed and he is a great guy with two good jobs and looking forward to college when he decides what he wants to study and he always has nice girlfriends who he treats very well.

It's funny though, that I had to defend him to BF who would compare that with his daughter who was same age and oh-so-charming and wonderful and such a stellar child, so perfect in every way. Funny thing is, she got busted for shop lifting 2 days before graduation. Hmmm. what's worse?

I'm sorry you are going through this. Just keep the tough love going and know you are doing the right thing. He will eventually come back around, I think. Is he getting some help with the anger problem? Maybe he can live nearby?

And stuff a sock in DH's mouth. This is not up for comparison. If he's not going to be supportive, turn it around. Not his child, not his problem. Lack of support from him will not help anything, so ignore it.

SusiQ's picture

Thankfully the only drama I'm currently dealing with is normal 3 year old and 4 month old behavior.

DD has every single male person in her life - completely wrapped around her little fingre and she knows it - She's 4 months old for goodness sake!!!

DS is 3 and thinks that if he says please - it will magically happen - Mom can I have cookies - No - Please - No - But I said please. Are you kidding me little man!?
However he is easily bribable - this time it was the donut fairy!

skylarksms's picture

The only drama I have ever really had with DS20 was usually due to his poor choice in girlfriends.

I think he is a "rescuer" like his mom. He has to swoop in to make people's lives better. I told him if he wants to be someone's shrink, he should go to college for it so he can get PAID!