First of all my SO pays his CP, he pays extras when the kids need something like for sports or activities, and he participates anyway he can. I'm already pissed off that BM just put braces on the FSD without my SO knowing. In their divorce papers it said all medical prodecures would be discussed and a decision would be made 50/50. The SD wanted them (they are for cosmetic) reasons and I have no problem him helping to pay for them. I do have a problem that she did it behind his back and now is giving him his "payment coupons" when all the kid had to do is wait one month and he would have made his half of the payment in full. There was no discussion between BM and SO.

So BM sends a text to SO on Sunday saying that SD's bday is on such and such date at such and such place. Well she scheduled it on a day that he had to work (mind you he works 24 hour shifts so he only works 2 days a week.) She has his monthy schedule...it's not like it changes. So he asked if she could schedule it the day before or another day so he could attend if not he would have to see if he could do a shift swap (which isn't a guarentee.) She flat out said NO. So, a few moments later he gets another text asking if he could help with the Birthday Party. The Birthday Party that he had no say in what-so-ever. He had no say in the date, location, the guest list, party favors, gift bags...NOTTA. It was told to him when and where and she even admitted she knew it was on a day he had to work.

So my question is would you contribute? Or is that what CP is for? I don't know, I have my own biokids but I don't ask my ex for anything extra for things like Bday parties...we split the cost on activities and uniforms. My ex and I have a good relationship but he does his thing and I do mine for things such as Bdays.