Phew... okay so DH and I are definately splitting up. It actually doesn't have anything to do with the BM or Skids, its issues that DH has that I no longer want to deal with. I will say that a couple months ago when I contemplated this I was so tore up because I wanted our happy little family, and what if I couldn't see the Skids anymore, etc. I don't really feel that way anymore. Actually I feel relived. I feel like I've invested a TON of time, money, and effort just to have the skids turn on me as soon as BM doesn't like me, DH has brought me nothing but problems with his finances, BM, the house he still owns with her, etc. I have already talked to DH and since my car, furnishings, and house were bought before I met him, they are separate property and he has agreed to sign paperwork Monday. Here are a few reasons why I am feeling good about this:

1. No more having to deal with that hag BM - although I will help DH as a friend with court paperwork because I am dying to see her have to work a full 40 hours a week to pay the bills.

2. I have a 2500 square foot 4 bedroom house and now it will just be me and my DD3. We'll have two guest rooms, an office/play room, and craft room all to ourselves.

3. I can decorate my house however I want. No more Skid requests for black walls, orange towels, pictures of monkeys drinking liquer, and other tacky decor.

4. I don't ever, ever, ever have to set eyes on BM's nephew again. Out of all the reasons I am happy, this one keeps making me smile. I will never have to clean up after him, listen to his requests that I buy him everything under the sun, or find new soda stains on the carpet because he can't be bothered to wipe it up. I won't have to hear DH call that kid his son anymore or listen to him talk. My god, the kid is so stupid its painful.

5. No more having my DD3 call the cat a "douchebag" because skid 12 thinks its funny to teach her cusswords.

6. No more dealing with my DH's alcoholic brother, who short changed me on some materials and kept $80 of mine, has used my credit card without permission, and is generally just a scumbag.

Frankly, I am sad that we are over, but its been a long time coming and at this point, I cannot keep on in this life. I need some downtime with just me and DD3 in my own house without all of the constant drama, needs, and crap that goes along with being married to someone with kids and people he just calls his kid (BMs nephew), who is painfully slow in setting boundaries with BM, and has a huge financial landslide occuring around him because he didn't deal with this crap during the divorce. I am going to take all the money I'll save and buy DD3 a pony - seriously. Paying for a stall is about a third of what we pay for BM and skids upkeep. Ahhhhh....sweet relief.