I am curious if one of out STalk stepdads or any male in general (ladies, feel free to ask the SO's) can help me figure out what I should understand my SO is saying.
He says he would miss me if I left (have been talking about moving for continued education and SO's job keeps him here), but he would not be sad. He says a lot of things have changed between us and in our lives, that we have grown apart. Yet we still cuddle in bed are more like really close roommates. I asked why we are still together if he feels this way (grown apart...) and he says its our "normal".
With my plan of relocating for school and his point that we have grown apart among other issues (adult skids being rude, him allowing the behavior, no communication, etc...) I figured we end the relationship when I moved if not sooner, but when I asked what he thought about me living in the new town he said it might be good for our relationship. That he could come see me and the few times I plan on coming back (major holidays) we could get together.
As of right now there almost no inimacy so I know its not just for sex. He hasnt tried to make this relationship work and refuses to see anything the skids do that is very disrespectful to me. He doesnt talk to me about problems and I feel there is no relationship.
I am wondering whats with the mixed signals? One second we are grown apart and the next we could totally survive an long distance relationship (in his mind). He is older (40's) so I am wondering if he is just okay with the dilluted relationship for the companionship?