Dh and his ex went trough a lengthy and nasty divorce. This was her third marriage and she had two kids with my dh. She has two adult kids from her first marriage.
She is gearing up for a fourth marriage.
When her and my Dh were separated she started an affair with the husband of her first cousin. He was paying her lawyer and got her an apartment and bought her a car. Mind you, her first cousin (his wife) didn't know that they were having an affair.
The kids knew of their relationship and approved of it. They never criticise her, ever.
Anyway, his wife found out and he went back to his family. He was just being used for his money.All her family members cut her off except for her mother.
She and her mother alienated the kids so badly it's horrific.
Before the divorce they had a great relationship with their dad. She was very abbusive to the kids and always made the kids lie to their dad.
After an expensive divorce settlement he hoped the alienation would stop.
They lie a lot. Every word that comes out of their mouth is a lie to cover up that their lives are fucked up because that would make her look like a bad mother.
They are failing in school not going to graduate on time.
Then we find out that ss was kicked out by her new boyfriend, who she is living with, and now lives with a familymember of hers. My dh only found this out recently and confronted his son about this. Ss tried to deny it but later admitted it.
When Dh confronted his ex about this she kept denying it'cause she was afraid the cs would cease.
Dh then said that ss has to come and live with us. He refused and still defends him mom and said that he wants to stay close to his mom.
Sd (14) couldn't take it anymore and told dh that her mom is horrible and that she doesn't care about them and that she is only interested in their cs and boufriend. She is sick and tired of the boyfriends her mom has all the time but is afraid to stand up to her.Sd lives with her mom and the new boyfriend/fiance. Sd told us in confidence because her brother tells his mom everything.
She wants to stay with us but is too afraid of her mom.She swore my dh to secrecy.
But when they went back after their visit with us we don't hear a peep. Sd has her own phone and dh told her she could call him whenever she wants if she's ready to leave.But whenever he calls her she doesn't want to talk.
Again they skids revert to not talking.
Why are these kids putting up with her behavior and empty promises and the countless fiancees?
Bm blew her settlement money and wants dh to help skids fianacially after cs stops but she wants the skids to stay close to her. We live in a neighbouring state.
Het oldest two (28 and 30) are miserable failures thanks to her but remain super loyal.
Can anybody explain this behavior of these kids and why they don't speak up?