Oh that really sucks. My SO was doing that for a while. I went ballistic on him. He actually told her we were trying to have a baby.

I was like what!!!!!! WTF would you tell your 14 year old daughter about our sex life for?? Its one thing to tell your children that you will likely have a kid with your new partner, but the whole we are trying thing sent me off.

I went off and told him she's his daughter, not his friend and he need to act like it. The one thing that is always bad is telling family members too much about your relationship. They just treat you bad because they hear all the bad stuff, not the good. So when all is right with you two again, they are mad at you.

He is TOTALLY OUT OF ORDER telling his daughter YOUR business - as a couple!

He has serious boundary issues, and if he isn't able or willing to see that, he is someone not to be trusted.

Yes, he CAN and is ABLE to tell his daughter anything he likes, but not if he wants to keep his relationship with you healthy! Has he no understanding of how this works? He sounds like a child!

I am not up on if you are married to this man, but if you aren't - RUN!

"The house is in his name only, but he can't sell it without my written permission, that is what the laywer and Real Estate told me when he bought it in Dec 2011."

I have never heard of such a thing. I think if it is solely his name on the deed, he can do whatever he wants with the property and doesn't need your signature. Did you provide any money towards the down payment of the house?

SA gave you good advice to see an attorney. I second that advice and will add, DO IT NOW!

If you feel you are married to a "monster" then you need to plan your exit strategy. Now.

Gee my wife has been blubbering to her kids about me for decades and you're right they do think I'm a jerk at best but ya know what I don't give a damn what they think.

He is very sneaky-careful! He is divorcing you, so here is what you do: you sell whatever you can get your hands on, or maybe even clear the joint account (my ex did that to me, so learning from a psychopath, I learned enough to teach you guys in turn), book an attorney NOW! The attorney will ask that whoever has the greater income will pay BOTH attorneys, so don't be scared if you don;t have an attorney (my ex did this to me too). Do you have minor children in common? BTW- life is too short to live unhappy. Be strong (and smart)!

It gives me inspiration.I think I will also inspired by you and think about more new ideas.glass graffiti removal

i found this on line. this is what your husband is doing. so is mine.

“I’ve been hesitant to write about emotional incest for two reasons: First, it’s too easy for people to think “emotional incest” implies a sexual relationship when it doesn’t, and second, I’ve had some experience with it and drudging that up can be painful. But given how integral emotional incest is to the teachings of Vision Forum and Christian Patriarchy, I’ve decided to devote a few posts to it.

Emotional incest is sometimes also called covert incest. It does not involve actual sexual or physical contact. Rather, it involves an unhealthy relationship between parent and child in which the child serves as a sort of emotional spouse or companion to the parent. Here are a couple definitions, some using the term “covert incest” and others using the term “emotional incest.”

Covert incest occurs when a child plays the role of a surrogate husband or wife to a lonely, needy parent. The parent’s need for companionship is met through the child. The child is bound to the parent by excessive feelings of responsibility for the welfare of the parent. The demand for loyalty to the lonely, needy parent overwhelms the child and becomes the major organizing experience in the child’s development.
Covert emotional incest begins when a person perceives and responds to a family member as a replacement or substitute for a partner.

This form of incest is described as a relationship where a parent turns a child into a partner or confidante that is inappropriate to the child’s age and life experience. Or to put it another way, when a child is manipulated into the role of a surrogate wife or husband by a needy parent. While some refer to this as covert incest, others refer to it as emotional incest.”

You get the idea. Emotional incest is essentially when the relationship between a parent and child becomes like that between two spouses, except that given the immaturity of the child the relationship is one-sided and the parent feeds off the child emotionally while the child ends up feeling responsible for the well-being of the parent.

I think it’s important to remember that there are different degrees of emotional incest. It’s not an all or nothing kind of thing. Sometimes emotional incest is extremely severe and debilitating, and other times it’s more moderate and can almost go unnoticed. Regardless of its intensity, though, emotional incest is harmful and unhealthy.
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she's his mistress without sex.

I know how you feel dh tells skids everything that is going on in our marriage, I never have understood why he would want his kids to hate me but they do and it is mostly because of him. Now they are trying everything in there power to get me to leave again.