Did anyone see today's Dear Abby column?

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It is all about how poorly Stepmoms are treated at family gatherings such as weddings, etc. It reminded me a few posts on here about surviving family events.

LMAO!!!! No way in Hell

LMAO!!!! No way in Hell would I waste my mashed taters!! She'd get split pea soup or something icky!

LOL! I was just reading it!

LOL! I was just reading it! Makes me think what I have to look forward to when my skids get married!

My sister lives in another

My sister lives in another state, so we communicate by email everyday. She emailed me about Dear Abby today, saying it sure sounded familiar....since my OSD is getting married in a month. Oh joy.

I was treated so crappy by Biomom-the-cum-dumpter and her new family at my SS18 graduation that I told my DH that for SS15's graduation I will be on vacation in Hawaii all by myself so I don't have to be here.

She also un-invited us from a celebration because she didn't want me there. Mind you, I've never said a word to this person. I told H he could go without me, but he told her we would just have one of our own.

Didn't help that my H let the ex and her family treat me like a witch at the ceremony.

I'm sooooooo over it all.

I want to know how you got

I want to know how you got over it all. I am still pissed about a birthday party in which BM forced DH to cancel his (which he invited her to just to be civil) then she held her own instead, same day, same place only earlier in the day - invited DH and MY kids but forbid me to attend)

Its still getting to me - I want to get over it and let it go but I am just imagining if all that for a b-day party, what happens with graduations and weddings and how will I deal with it all?? How do I send DH and just not attend without feeling like I let BM win. In reality - I don't want to go but my feeling of letting BM win is worse.

Please tell me how to deal so I can let it go and say I am going on a nice vacation see you later DH - enjoy!! I so want to feel good about that - I just don't know how to get there.

I didn't get over it. I'm

I didn't get over it. I'm still pissed about it and am seeing a marriage counselor now.

This was just one of many things that have happened over the years. I'm still so angry about everything all I want to do is scream or cry.

I hope you are dealing ok my friend.

You guys are cracking me up!

You also CANNOT waste good amshed potatos. Iasked my trainer the other day if I could go on an all mashed potato diet. The B said no

Someone once suggested that

Someone once suggested that my fiance's Ex and I should "suck it up" for the sake of "the child" so that EVERYONE can participate in family events.

I simply said ..."Fabulous, I have some things I need to get off my chest.. it'll be like MMA"
Nobody ever mentioned it again.

My solution is that the EX stays out of my events and I stay out of dance recitals, etc...

I behave like a 'lady' until crossed. Know my boundaries !

Interesting. I was treated

Interesting. I was treated very well at both of my ss's graduations (we hosted the younger one - he lived with us) and weddings. No matter what all had gone down before we were all big enough to get along and make nice for the sake of the skids.

I went with DH to "her sons

I went with DH to "her sons house" for Christmas with "the family". While "her son" was polite there was an elephant in the room. (besides her). This year.... I will spend the holidays with my kids at home if needed but I will NOT go thru that crap again. Sure I will be with evil B for it.... About time they got my title right!!!