When will my life be normal?!
Today I was signing a check for my SD's daycare since my DH didn't have his check book. SD mother happens to show up at the same time, and see's me sign this check. Ten minutes later BM sends an angry text to my DH about how I'm not allowed to sign anything for SD at her daycare and how SD is her child not mine!
As a side note, BM doesn't even pay her half of daycare my DH pays for the whole thing, so BM really doesn't have say in who is paying for anything. When my DH wouldn't tell her what I was paying for she flew off the handle and cussed him out, "for leaving her out of her daughters life."
I'm so tired of being having every single thing judged by this psycho BM. Now I can't even sign a check (a joint account with my husband btw) without getting yelled at for being too involved.
IGNORE her. If it doesn't
IGNORE her. If it doesn't have something to do with the kids directly, ignore it. You can't change her behavior and there will be more. Jealousy motivated that comment. Take comfort in knowing what a profound affect you are having on her! I mean, this is just the crazy coming out...you write a check, she feels left out of her own daughter's life. See an imbalance there anywhere? That is her BRAIN. Thank goodness you don't have those demons.
You make a very good point
You make a very good point
I actually LOVE using our
I actually LOVE using our joint checks to pay for SDs things. Cause I know it must grind the shit outta BM to see my name next to his. LOL!
I will sometimes write out
I will sometimes write out BM's child support check from our account if DH forgets and asks me to send it. I always make sure I sign my last name REALLY big and put a little heart by it. Juvenile? Sure - but I know it grinds her!
She sounds extremely jealous
She sounds extremely jealous of you! You can definitely ignore her, which will drive her batty or you can rub it in her face, which would likely send her over the edge (not sure you want that kind of fallout though) }:)
I'm always torn over doing
I'm always torn over doing the right thing or succumbing to my inner bitch. It's such a hard decision....
Go with the bitch....it's
Go with the bitch....it's WAAAAAYYYYY more fun!!! }:)
Muahahahaha!!!
^^^^YES!!!!!!!!! I agree!
^^^^YES!!!!!!!!! I agree!
She's crazy. Ignore her. WHen
She's crazy. Ignore her. WHen I was married to my exh, BM was crazy. She could not handle seeing my handwriting on anything without freaking the fuck out. So I made sure to write out her child support check every single month out of our joint account, I signed every birthday and Christmas card for SD.
The more I ignored her, the crazier she got!!!
When DH and BM got married,
When DH and BM got married, she insisted on hyphenating her last name (maiden name-married name).
After about a year, she just dropped the maiden name part and only used the married one.
When they got divorced, she refused to change her name. DH didn't really care, never pressed the issue.
Needless to say, she was less than thrilled to see every single CS check written out to her in her maiden name.
She still hasn't changed it, but I know it burns her ass to see our names together on the check written to her maiden name. (It's a joint account, but DH is the only one that uses it).
You need to decide who is
You need to decide who is important in your life. Nobody in the world cares what this poor woman thinks about you even if they were privy to her rant. I say poor because she obviously is deserving of pity not anger.
If some drunk in the gutter called you a name you would dismiss it as ravings of a disturbed mind. She is no different. Tell your husband to deal with her and that you do not want to even know what her complaints, problems or comments are regarding you and your life. Unless it directly effects you such as a change in visitation or custody.
She just isn't worth the mental effort.
Offer to let her pay.
Offer to let her pay.
^^^GOOD one
^^^GOOD one
I love this! My husband did
I love this! My husband did deal with it by telling her our money was none of her concerns and to please not waste his time. This of course made her even angrier but that's ok at least DH didn't immediately jump to calm her down
When people act batshit crazy
When people act batshit crazy I refuse to try to "calm them down". Because that just gives them permission to act out even more to see how much you are willing to put up with.
BM tried to demand info on who I was, what was I to DH, etc when DH and I started dating. Their son was in his mid twenties so it's not like she was worried about who was going to be around a 5 year old.
She just thought for some reason that she had a legitimate need to know. You know she HAD been his wife twenty years earlier. I basically told her nothing except to fuck off.
She hates me with a passion. So what.
hahahahha...i freakin love
hahahahha...i freakin love it!!!! I love signing checks with both our names on it...
make sher realise that dh and i are a team...she freakin hates it...
congrats and continue!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!