My teen SD will text my DH pic of expensive shoes that she wants to buy with her own money but daddy will need to use his credit card since she says you can only buy online and she will pay him back (btw seen same shoes in the mall you can buy there) mind you this kid barely has enough money in bank acct to pay him back…. This is second time this has happened… BTW her mom has credit card to and she lives with her mom and SD always talks about how close they are and how great she is blah blah blah so you would think she would ask her mother right?
My feelings are if you are using your own money pull it out of bank go to store. no need to even ask daddy who really could care less about fashion… I never asked my dad for any clothing item so then I asked a few of my friends and no one ever went to their father for clothes or shoes everyone said they always asked their mother … my DH is no fashion expect he referred the shoe question to me asking me if I thought to expensive which I thought hell yes 100 $ for shoes for a teen girl with a growing foot who wants a new pair every month is way too much money. I refuse to support the shoe habit of a teen girl with no job where fashion changes as fast as underwear.
I told DH if she wants them let her go to store and buy them and do not put on a credit card….. I know exactly how that will play out… “we can go to bank next week daddy and never go, or here is 25 bucks I will give you rest later….” I know how teens think and fish around for stuff.
My kids always ask me for stuff never do they ask their father and I know when I am being played…. why is it I had to explain to my DH that she is playing him? I told him she is not acting any different than any other teenage girl and she will do what it takes to get the item she wants….
Does anyone else’s skids do this or maybe I am totally wrong and girls talk fashion now with their dad? all I know is my teen boys only ask me for stuff and none of my teenage nieces ask their dad for shoes, clothes they all go to their mom too and I never went to my dad either for stuff always went to mom…..
The crazy part of all is I found the same shoes for under 30 bucks so I picked them up and will give to her for back to school since they are combat boots anyway and its summer.
If she must have now she can buy off me I will not just give them to her.
if she would of just came to me knowing how much I love to shop and she knows that I and a good shopper and I get the deals and if she just said “hey SM I love these shoes could you keep your eye open for them “I probably would of got them for her and gave them to her right away.. but no the kid refuses to ask me anything no matter how hard I have tried with her and the worst part is I love clothes and shoes and shopper and she knows it you think if anything that would make her want to connect…. I guess that is the part the bugs me the most and I told my DH that.
Sorry for the rant but man the text pic from her asking for more stuff just really annoyed me and I just wanna know if I handled it right…… ?