BM thinks she should be at ultrasound...

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She is feeling the "effects" of me having a child in her home. She says that SD talks about it a lot and so she has to hear about it and also have family discussions so SD understands how it all works. So she feels she should be involved and be at my ultrasounds if SD is there she also still feels she should have gotten to tell SD with SO and me not there... is it just me or is this completely out of bounds?

Your BM is completely coocoo

Your BM is completely coocoo spinny motion around my ears if y'know what I mean.

Next thing you know, she'll want to be at the birth, and at your child's birthday parties so she could "explain" to your SD what life with a sibling is all about.

I hope whoever received that demand laughed her to the other side of the planet.

SD has already mentioned

SD has already mentioned whether BM will come see the baby in the hospital... I am seriously starting to wondering if there is a mental disability with BM. This is so of the rocker it is ridiculous.

She's feeling the "effects"

She's feeling the "effects" of something.

Cray cray.

LMAO thank you for that

LMAO thank you for that laugh...

Keep it simple. Quite

Keep it simple. Quite frankly, I'm not sure bringing your SD to your ultrasounds is a good idea, if you are in fact including her.

Dear Bat-Shit Crazy BM.

Thank you for your concern, however this is an intimate time for me and I'd prefer no outsiders be at my appointment.

For the record she sent this

For the record she sent this in a HUGE long email and SO has no intention of complying neither do I. My opinion if she ever showed up I would have the cops come to escort her out. If I could that is but its nice to think that I could.

We are having SD their after

We are having SD their after doing tones of research on how to introduce a blended family it is the best thing to do for SD. She is also so excited to be involved and loves seeing the pictures! We where hesitant to have her at the first one but this is 20 weeks with a healthy pregnancy thus far.

Im currently pregnant with my

Im currently pregnant with my first. Sks are going to come to at least one ultra sound if we can swing it. They already have half siblings they see occasionally with BM, but this is their first they will be around all the time. We want them to feel a part

wow. that is freaking crazy.

BM should probably google

BM should probably google "CRAZIER THAN A S**T-HOUSE RAT" too.

I think so aswell... usually

I think so aswell... usually SO writes the email and has horrible writing skills so I go over and edit it and take out any anger. He is taking her back to court once we can pay off some of our existing lawyer fees. Therefor every email he sends now is diplomatic and professional. But I think something to this degree will be added, as well as an explanation as to why I have say in her daughters raising and why I am a parental figure. Of course he will have to agree but I don't think he will have a problem lol! Her child is in our home/care our child will not be in her home/care... pretty simple you would think at least!

I gotta say I love your

I gotta say I love your comments and btw I did point blank inform her she was "obviously jelous and wanting to be a part of something she was clearly not". I realize this was not the best way to handle it but she managed to get me to snap one day.

I considered that but it will

I considered that but it will be addressed with the next email. However, BM has since decided she wants no contact with me... Maybe she should be reminded of that in our response.

I like your delusion

There was a scare that BIL

There was a scare that BIL knocked someone up and it got around to BM that it was me though and BM called DH crying hysterically and cussing that I better not have a girl (she wanted a girl so bad and even tried to convince DH they should try for another baby to "improve" the marriage) and she can't believe he would knock me up so quick etc...this was like 5 months into our relationship....

There was a point I thought she was over DH but when we dropped SS off Saturday EVERYTHING she was wearing was something DH left behind, and she is in the midst of trying to play happy family and even has the school thinking I'm causing "custody issues" because she got mad when she found out I could email on behalf of DH.

It is amazing what these women they think they should be involved in and are entitled to. My house is my house what happens here is none of BMs business.

I would not even give her the time of day to respond to such nonsense.

^^ I totally agree - I always

I totally agree - I always say I will not wish death upon BM because I do not want to see SS that depressed but if she stubs her toe and falls or any other accident that is all her fault I feel no responsibility

LOL!!! I liked that..

I was going to then I found

I was going to then I found out she for sure was not coming! SD has asked if her mom will be there which makes us think that BM has brought it up... I am really starting to wonder if something is not right upstairs :$.

Send her a list of therapist

Send her a list of therapist names and numbers, tell her 'they' can help her with her "effects".

If she wants to be a part of your pregnancy, send her texts at 2 in the morning telling her to deliver fried chicken and milk shakes. Tell her the baby needs $500 worth of girt vouchers from [baby store in your area]. Send her a text every time you pee. Tell her your appointment for ultrasound is at [made up time date and place] then say "oops, baby brain, sorry!"

What a loopy fruit!

Oh my Lord you are dealing

Oh my Lord you are dealing with a nut for a BM! I started laughing and so did my DH....but I do feel sorry for you that you have to deal with this! :jawdrop:

I cant figure out if she was

I cant figure out if she was being sarcastic or not. I get the feeling she wasn't... she has tried to be part of this since day one! As low as it was I am glad I called her out on being jelous from the get go.

She sounds nuts seriously. I

She sounds nuts seriously. I am so happy to hear that she didn't just invite herself. She probably wasn't sarcastic. Who knows. Still even if she was sarcastic, she was rude by even asking to come to your ultrasound! That is between you and your SO not her! Glad your ultrasound went well and glad you got to find out what you are having! How exciting Mine are 8 and 3 and I love that I have them...they make all this step madness feel more worth it.

Well bm didnt show up... we

Well bm didnt show up... we are having a boy!!!

Congratulations!!! Happy for

Congratulations!!! Happy for you!

I love raising boys

I love raising boys Congratulations lil lady! And I'm glad BM didn't crash your party!

Me too!! I am kind of scared

Me too!! I am kind of scared :S lol ss is 2 now well in a couple weeks and two boys is going to be crazy I feel. LOL I wasn't scared of two girls but 2 boys should be interesting.

It is young and I do have

It is young and I do have several "haters" as it where. Although I don't think she is one... maybe she is I don't spend a lot of time paying attention to names of those that don't like me.

Well that was lovely now we

Well that was lovely now we figure out what we are going to say to BM over he ridiculous email! There where other things in it aswell such as a article written by a lawyer about shared access (physical custody) being damaging to kids... right BM it has nothing to do with your need for more money heaven forbid you actually go to work! Also clarifying for heer that our house has our rules and when she tells sd she doesn't agree she IS pasing :$. Good lord, the woman wrote a long paragraph about how she doesnt pass then explained how she point blank told SD6 she doesnt agree with our house rules! But hey we have it in writting that she is jot only passing but dragging her child into an adult conversation!