One common thread with a lot of the people coming here (obviously myself included) is that many of us are bitter, angry and have really lost our daily everyday quality of life because of these ridiculous co-parenting situations that are clearly not working for the kids nor US.

We are all caught in the middle of other people's bad coparenting team. Whether it is one co-parent more than the other doesn't really matter. We are still in the middle.

I have two children of my own. I protect them as much as I can, but again, THEY are still in the middle of all this. My two step children - both - yes - caught in the middle.

I had a counselor recently tell me that our blended family situation was one of the worst he has seen in his whole counseling career. What I see is that the blended families are not the problem - it is the co-parents that are the problem. The BM has refused to accept her xhusband from having his own life. It was ok for her to say to DH "hey - I fell in love with my B.F.s hubby and now I am going to make my new family. That was fine. But she didnt' expect DH to meet me and that I would have 2 children and so it's has become a MISSION for her to affect our lives.

Sadly - it has. So I have to now dig myself up from the targeting and negativity and walk away from the bitterness and anger at how my kids and I have been treated moving into a new community and starting a new life - leaving friends behind and families we grew up with. Walk away from the anger that BM successfully Alientated, poisoned and maniuplated my SS and he is gone now. She has chipped one of OUR family members off and is celebrating this. It is like winning a prize for her in her sick twisted emotionally disturbed mind. I (we) can only walk forward. Try to survive. My kids luckily make friends easily but I realize now that for the first time in my life - MY LOVE OF LIFE and JOY and GOALS are gone. I am drained. I am lost.

So how do we climb back up? Is it possible to move beyond the anger and bitterness. That is where I am at and I am working on fixing that. Getting my old self back. For the first time in my life - I am actually more unhappy than I even was in my first marriage not because of my husband now, but, because of the enemies around me. Enemies that I didn't seek. Enemies I never had but for some reason earned by just moving here.

I need more support here and I don't have it. I don't talk about my situation to people but I think many know I am a little sad and that doesn't attract people to me. People were attracted to the old me that was passionate, happy and motivated about life. That is not me anymore. Physically since I moved in with my husband I have suffered as well. Auto immune disease that as things get more stressful the disease flairs up.

There is zero benefit to moving out. My first marriage was almost 2 decades and this is my second marriage and I love my husband and for loving him have been attacked over and over and over by BM. She is a dark person and very destructive and has way too much influence in our home by using her kids. Now that SS is gone I hope things calm.

Thanks for listening. Any ideas or thoughts on how to get out of a ditch?