Creative ways to get back at BM?
I'm losing it. SD5 has for some reason decided to open up about a few things that BM has told her recently. First, she arrived on Friday with a loose tooth nearly dangling out of her mouth. Last night, she let it slip that BM told her if it fell out at DH's place to bring it back to her house and the tooth fairy would give her twice as much money, a milkshake, and a Happy Meal. Classy, BM.
Just now at dinner she turned to DH laughing, telling him that BM said since he shaved his beard his face looks like an ass. Fitting coming from someone(BM) married to a guy with a line of tattoos down the middle of his face.
BM is usually passive-agressive, so I don't know if this is an usually bitchy streak, or if SD5 is just becoming more talkative.
What to do? Ignore the witch? What to do with the tooth? Help!
Thanks crazy, we always take
Thanks crazy, we always take the high road with SD and BM, it's just difficult sometimes. I can only hope that one day SD realizes what a petty bitch her BM is.
We don't do
We don't do fairy/bunny/chubby old men stuff at our house, or I'd consider it. Almost makes it better since DH can just send SD back with the tooth AND a fiver, and let BM spin tales about how there is definitely a tooth fairy that breaks into your house in the middle of the night and collects the blood-crusted dental rot from under your pillow.
I won't stoop to her level,
I won't stoop to her level, but the asshattery on the part of this BM is getting ridiculous. I am nearly six months pregnant with a daughter who will be SD's ONLY sibling(well, half-THANK GODDESS) and coincidentally, she tells DH and I tonight that BM's friend's daughter is her sister because they have the same shirts. Nice try, BM.
I agree with 'aswang' and
I agree with 'aswang' and others. High road and let Daddy deal with her.
No kidding! BM gives the
No kidding!
BM gives the skids $20 per tooth minimum, no joke. It's absurd.
You don't have to do a damned
You don't have to do a damned thing.
Just love your family and live your life and be happy.
(The happy part is what really gets them)
tattoos down his
tattoos down his face?????.... :sick:
WHY.....WHY...WHY do some of
WHY.....WHY...WHY do some of you SM WANT to get back at BM???????.....seriously....STOP IT....
just ignore....ignore...ignore.....
I have to agree with the
I have to agree with the others that said to ignore it. My step kids BM has always insulted their father to them. We, however, never said anything bad about her (believe me, at times, it was HARD!!!
). As my SD17 got older, their BM's attitude towards their father, among other things she does, has completely alienated my SD. She pretty much wants nothing to do with BM and makes sure she has a book or homework or SOMETHING to do during their visitation so she doesn't have to interact with BM. She came to that place by herself, with no help from us. Makes it that much sweeter. 
Thank You,
Karis
Sorry, I hit submit twice
Sorry, I hit submit twice :-\. I can't figure out how to delete it. :?
Thank You,
Karis
I have a fair bit of
I have a fair bit of stepfamily experience, honestly the thing? Don't say anything to BM. Trust me, she would LOVE to know she got you so upset. Vent to friends, here...but never let her know she got your goat.
To the child, I would say something like, "Well, that's not so nice. Let's try to use nice words instead." Then drop it, do something positive with your SD and DH that builds a loving, positive memory of her dad in her mind.
You have to accept that you cannot control the nasty things she says to her daughter about her dad unless it rises to such a vitriolic level that it becomes court-actionable. It's a bitter pill so swallow, but you won't get any peace until you do.
I am the type to want revenge by nature, so this has been a hard thing for me to do. I understand.